Have you tried contacting Senoir Services in your area? There are organizations called "Respit" they have qualified caregivers that can come to your home(4 hours minimum), it is all by donations, so nothing is coming out of your pocket except what you would like to give. They also can reccomend a care giver on a more full time basis, that you would have to pay for, but there are so many that are very resonable it would be a shame not to check it out. I am not likeing the attitude of the nursing home staff that tells you to "wait until he gets to be combative?" Why would your Father have to get to that stage to be admitted? Wrong place for him! I don't know what state you live in, or what sort of medication he is on, but it almost seems as if he should be re-evaluated as far as meds. You don't say if he is a wonderer, drives, how old. This all plays into this. Can he function on his own, can he get a Senoir Service facilitie that has activities all day to join, and then the bus drops him home? All is not lost, check these things out in his community, you might be surprised. And rethink that nursing home!!!!! They are not about the person, they are about the money!