My mother has Alzheimers in the late stages.  She still gets around good and has a lot of past memories, stories to tell!  I have moved into her home with her trying to give her happiness being in her home.  My problem is that she hates someone living with her.  She wants her privacy and wants to live alone.  She really hates that my husband is here.  I try to tell her that we are just visiting and she seems satisfied but then someone will ask her if we live with her and and she goes into a fit and tries to throw me out(along with my husband).  When I won't leave she then runs away!  The police have been involved many times and on one hand they tell me that I cannot do anything as I do not have power of attorney and on the other hand they tell me not to leave her alone.  What to do???  I have tried to get power of attorney but I have to have mother's signature and she will never sign over her life.. never!!!  The doctor told me that he would sign any paper that I need to sign after seeing her last time.  The lawyer still says that I have to have mother's signature!  I have the same problem as others.. she wants to "go home" and yet we are in her home!  I want to stay with her and keep her as happy as possible but I don't know how long I can stay with her as she keeps trying to hurt me, my husband and herself.  She has been very violent.  She had an aunt who was put in a nursing home for a short time and her children sold her home and car and then when it was time for her to get out she had no where to go.. this has always been on her mind and now it is even heavier on her mind as she knows it could happen to her.  I tell her that I will not let anyone put her in a home but I need the paper (power of attorney) signed.. she will not sign it but then during our arguments/fights she brings up that I have the "paper" and I am trying to control her!  Any suggestions would be appreciated!  Thank you!