When dealing with a difficult situation, a caregiver may try to defuse the situation by turning on the television or the radio. Because many Alzheimer's patients who are agitated do not like to be touched, it is suggested that a caregiver try talking to them in a calm and soothing tone of voice. Never raise your voice, as this will only increase tension and agitation.

Focusing On the Patient

In order to avoid battles, it is important for a caregiver to remember to focus on the person, and not on the specific request or task on hand. For example, if getting a parent to bathe is your goal, and you see that they are not in the mood and are going to refuse, it is best not to waste your time arguing, but to wait for another point in time to suggest that bath. As long as the person is not in any danger, make it a point to avoid arguments whenever possible.

While it is certainly never easy for children to watch a steady decline in the cognitive abilities of the parent, it is essential to remember that most mood swings and behavioral changes are not the fault of the person suffering from Alzheimer's disease, but the fault of the disease process. Patience, compassion, and understanding go a long way toward providing the care and love that your parent deserves.

Keep the Peace

The bottom line toward dealing with behaviors such as confusion, repetition of actions or speech, as well as the wary suspicion that is often expressed by Alzheimer's patients is to:

• Stay calm
• Try not to take it personally
• Be patient
• Don't take offense
• Don't argue
• Attempt to switch focus to a new activity

Avoiding reactions such as frustration, tension, and hurt feelings helps a caregiver to focus and maintain on what they are trying to provide for someone with Alzheimer's disease, which is a safe and secure environment and making every day as easy on a loved one as possible.