When one partner has anxiety issues it frequently results in tensions. First, everyday problems within a relationship can increase anxieties, which leads to increases in anxious ways of thinking and behaving. Secondly, anxiety itself can have a huge effect on the relationship. If you suffer from anxiety the urge is to avoid situations that make it worse. Therefore you find excuses to avoid going to unfamiliar places or meeting new people and sometimes your anxiety even extends to avoidance of familiar situations or people. Worse still, you may agree to a vacation, or to attend a party or some other event, only to cancel it at the very last moment because you feel you simply can’t cope. It’s hardly surprising that anxiety behavior like this results in strained relationships.
Unfortunately relationship problems can vary according to the anxiety issue or disorder that is most prominent. The example previously given would be typical of a person with social anxiety disorder. But, in the case of panic disorder, for example, there is often a strong need for reassurance. To meet this need a partner may be repeatedly called on to accompany the person to places they need to go. People with OCD may have other issues such as inventing all sorts of rules that