Sunday, November 30, 2008
So, to all who are out there, I don't have all the answers , but I do know what it is like .. and I wish you all peace of mind , peace of heart and hope that you stay well .. I hope someone reaches out to you soon .. be well .. agserra
Hello Adrian how is your day ?
I'm wondering what have you been eating lately lol, it is so great to see you in fine spirits, I agree witj yopu about your neighbor I to hope that he will come around, as you know I have a son to and my day was way back in sept 1997 where I said the buck stop's here, I did not want him to live what I went trough with my own father, but as you said kids are sponge's, for one who as had a youth of terror I can tell you that once my decision was taken I needed to let go of all the wrong doing of my father, so I had no point of reference to being a good father but knew that if I wanted to be one I had to earn it, to this day I never look back on the decision I took it did not come naturally for me as you can imagine, thing is my son will be 16 on the 28th of december and I thank god to have giving me the strenght to invest myself with my precious son, thank you for reminding me to count my blessings.
Be Well
Suffolk
Yes, Michel .. learning to be a parent is hard enough, when you have experienced bad parenting it takes time to learn how to be a loving parent .. while not all who suffer from bad experiences as young people have this issue , I find that those who are told they were a mistake and not planned are suseptible to feeling unloved , and add resentment on the part of either parent, or harsh treatment and it is a wonder that some people can make that transition ..
You are and have done what you thought best in oreder to continue your relationship with your son .. further self help may actually teach you to aspire further .. there is hope and am happy that you are taking steps in realizing that you can mend what has been done .. children are resilent , and must be given credit for their willingness to forgive and renew a better bond ..
My Christmas wish for you is just that , that you and your son continue to expand on a new and better open communication and relationship .. it is not too late .. and you shold feel good about what you do have and even better knowing you can change this pattern .. good luck in all you wish to acheive .. peace friend - adrian