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Avoiding drama ..

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agserra1

agserra1

Tue, February 03, 2009

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Sounds easy , NOT , especially when the drama comes from family .. last evening while wlking one of my dogs , I was listening to the sounds of the neighborhood , the music and laughter .. the moon was bright and stars were out .. nice ..

 

Then I heard a funny sound, so I stood and listened and there it was again .. it drew my attention to an adjacent side street .. lined with it's neat little homes and fences , and there on a patio of a well lit home stood 3 young boys ..

 

The sound became clearer in my mind, it was the sound of an air rifle .. as I stared at the motions now, I focused on the sound and then saw the action .. coming off the porch these 3 boys then put on their dark hooded cape-like attire ..

 

I froze and stared more intently while my dog was oblivious .. as they began coming up toward our street , the one with the rifle began shooting, at signs, houses and cars .. knowing it was not the norm, but also knowing myself I whistled .. and caught their attention ..

 

They laughed and shot at the house , then pointed the rifle at me .. I said What id the matter with you ? Do you think that is funny ?

Now you are probably thinking why not just say nothing ? Go in the house , but no, I stood my ground , as I knew what they were doing , but I also had my cell and called 911 .. as they shot at me , I said the same thing , What is wrong with you ?

 

So, the men two houses down bagn seeing their actions and said something in Mexican , as the police arrived one of the men approached the car and spoke to the officer .. but the officer came to me anyway ..

 

Long story short, these kids used to live in that house, the house was foreclosed on, and the police took it seriously as did the men down the street ..

 

So, this morning , I did have a bit of a panic attack, but was able to calm myself down .. I probably should have done nothing .. but I did ..

 

My "mother" called to tell me something , so I made mention of this .. and part of my situation is this, the home I am staying in is my brothers .. he is a "deadbeat" dad .. albeit .. he has his own demons .. but his anonymity is priority .. so I did not say I called the police ..

 

Rather the neighbors had , and then informed me of what took place .. it wasn't the act , it wasn't my reaction .. it ws my "mom" telling that it was GOOD that I did not get involved .. that my brothers wishes MUST be honored , anonymity ..

 

I am dealing with it , but I the posed the question , So if someone were to break in , and either rob, assult or do worse while I am here alone , I am not to call the cops ??

 

Drama .. so I learned it is better to just not talk with or get permission .. if my life were really at risk , I would be wrong to call the cops .. lol .. that is why I have all these issues to begin with .. right there ..

 

My "mother" .. that is a mothers love ... agserra

 

2/ 3/09 2:15pm

Christ Agserra are you ok ? youve been shot at did you go to the hospital ?

Let me tell you what I think I dont care what your bro say's Damn its your life and no one should tell you to put yourself in arms way NOBODY and your mother thats the only thig she found to say at you...dont get involved.

 

Shame on her (sorry) thats what I think you are her blood what is she thinking...obviously she's not thinking, I am Mad trough this site I have learned to know you a bit and it is true you have come a long way.

 

But remember what comes around goes around

That is one undeniable thing that I have learned in my life geezzzzzzzzz !

 

As for your other post about making friends go for it dont let this stop you that is if you are ok.

 

Suffolk

2/ 3/09 3:30pm

I am glad you are okay (physically) and that you were not harmed by the careless actions of these boys. As for calling the police, I think you must at all times take into consideration your safety and live by the rule you must do whatever is necessary to stay safe. That your brother is a deadbeat dad seems, to me, to be his problem to deal with. I must assume at this point there is a warrant out for his arrest. This, however, is not your problem. Your concern should be taking care of you, and that means doing what is necessary.

 

If your brother did not want any problems with the police, maybe he should have paid his child support, then he would not have anything to worry about. Either way, you should not need to suffer because he has not paid.

 

Again, I am glad you are okay.

 

Eileen

2/ 3/09 3:52pm

Thank you both .. and yes, the problems are my brothers issues , when he invited me here it was in good faith , and I do make everyy attempt to respect his privacy .. issues keep popping up such as mail, insurance and we (my therpaist) handle them one ata atime ..

 

Guilt is a huge part , empathy also .. I have that habit of tending to others needs and then neglecting my own ..

 

I am learning though .. and I am doing okay .. as I mentioned .. I knew this was temporary , and his desire to make it fulltime is just that, his desire ..

 

Too many details of mine get convoluted and so it makes for problems and stress I do not need .. but I am handling it , and have acknowledged that .. with each step forward , I now am not taking threeback .. agserra

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