My boyfriend has a 19 yr. old son who is a good kid, however since his graduation, and the empending divorce of his parents he pretty much hibernates in his room playing video games all day and most of the night only coming down to use the bathroom and something to eat.  His dad says he has been that way even before the marriage went south and that his son has always been very dettached from social skills as far back as elementary school.

He never had a lot of friends but he does have a few and he is an extremely intelligant likable kid.  He is just different from other young adults his age. 

When the wife left the boy stayed w/ his dad and his dad has tried to interest him in getting a license and bought him a car to encourage him to have a vehicle.  The kid seems to only have one interest...video games, not college, work or even datng.  His dad asks him repeatedly to do chores and such which he just puts on the back burner until he has to be asked told many times.

His dad trys to spend time with him such as taking him to the mall, a movie almost weekly.  Last Weekend he had a talk w/ his son informing that he will need to shut down the home they live in and he should make arrangements to get his license, and his sister lives out of state and offered him to come there where he could get a job and stay w/ her.  His dad is worried about pushing him out, but feels he must push him out of the nest as the son doesn't seem to understand or doesn't seem to care....The worst part of the guilt is his mom won't let him live with her which only adds to the guilt on his dads part.

Any advice would be appreciated