I am normally a very positive person, in spite of my anxiety & depression, which is usually controlled with medication. However, right now my husband is going through some emotional times and I just feel that I am having to carry the weight of his troubles as well as my own. When I make a mistake, or do something that was not a sound decision (at least maybe according to him) he really seems to make it so personal - and attacks my character and makes me feel so bad. Even though he apologizes afterwards, and usually says he thinks it's his own depression causing him to react this way - he is too proud to get any kind of help.
I'm going to go get help on my own this week. I have to... I feel that I'm beginning to spiral down and my natural positive nature is being sucked dry again - and the medication can only do so much. I know that I need his cooperation, but I'm out of words to make him act.
Just needed to say that. Thanks
Ellen
Hi Nancy
This must be so hard for you. It is a struggle when we have depression and anxiety and then our loved one is also having a rough time. But what concerns me here is that he is taking out his frustration on you.
I think you are doing exactly the right thing by getting some help so you can not get sucked into depression.
As hard as it may be to do...I think you will have to not take what he says personally as hurtful as his words may be. Sometimes when people attack verbally...it is really a projection of how they feel about themselves. What he is saying to you may be something he is disliking about himself.
I wanted to invite you to come over to visit our depression site as well. I will be doing some assertiveness exercises there which may be helpful to you.
Please feel free to keep writing and sharing. Sometimes it helps just to get it out and release the feelings. We are here for you.