Dismissing Anger, Dismissing Myself

Dear vlbhopes,

Thanks for your response and your thoughts.  I agree.

Accepting that anger is a normal and healthy emotion changed up everything for me.  Seeing anger only as "bad" and abnormal meant it was something shameful to run away from and/or hide it from others. 

Knowing that it was okay (and normal!) to feel anger was important for me understand.  Anger presents itself to alert me that something is amiss.  If I feel anger, I am feeling anger for a reason.  There is always a reason.  Getting to the reason, and then resolving it, is what is important. 

Also similar to you, dealing with anger when it arises allows me the freedom to go about the other business of life.  I don't have to be afraid of anger or dismiss it.  I can accept that I am angry, deal with it, resolve it, etc., and move on.  If I pretend I am not angry or hold onto the anger and do nothing about it but get more angry, the only person it affects is me (and in an unhealthy way).

Anger can be used and misused in ways that are harmful to us.  Appreciating the emotion of anger for what it is was difficult for me, and your response is appreciated-we are never alone!  Thanks.

Best,

Kimberly Tyler

No we are never alone, we only need to reach out. To help ourselves and

help each other.