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I was in the E.R. working with a woman in her mid-twenties who was experiencing some pretty intense thoughts of suicide. Very tragically, the woman became a paraplegic this past December as a result of a car accident. The past seven months had been an endless stream of medical care, personal and family adjustments, and attempts at rebuilding some sense of self and stability. And if that wasn't tough enough, crying profusely, the woman shared that she believed her husband no longer loved her and would soon abandon her.
This heart-broken woman needed so much more than the obligatory, "Hang in there, and good luck to you," as she was wheeled off to the psychiatric unit. So I offered her gentle and in-the-moment expressions of empathy, respect, compassion, and hope. Messages so pure and powerful they could have been conveyed without uttering a word. To me, hope is the most powerful of all elixirs. And I can't tell you the number of times it has provided a powerful sense of calm and relief to my most desperate of clients.
http://www.hopeandhealingdynamics.com
Hummm...
As for me when I exercise acts of empathie, compassion and such the las thing that comes to mind is to brag about it, compassion empathie sympathie are for me best done in humility.
Next time you complain about some sort of health provider giving you nothing but empty lip service, remember my post. And remember that at least someone tried to bring it to their attention and offer an alternative. Obviously your humility doesn't overcome your desire to deliver cheap shots. If only I were as saintly as you...
Correct me if I am mistaken... Are you the former suffolk who vowed not to post here any longer??? If not then your either having a bad day or just mad at the world.
Dewalt
Your wright
Maybe I'm just mad at the world, because I used for twenty seven years and should of been dead long ago, maybe I'm mad at the world because I see my son picking is hair out and there is nothing I can do as a father, maybe I'm mad at the world because I couldnt have him with me altough is mom was making him live stuff that no child should ever live, maybe I'm mad at the world because of the harm it as done to him, maybe I'm mad at the world because he never seem's to be completly relax as a child should be with no care or worries, Maybe I'm mad at the world because of the human nature of men who are opportunist and looking only at gain...yeah Maybe I am because I should be the one who should be harmed with everything I went trough not my son he never made the choices I did he's guilty of nothing.
In fact I'm piss off.
What do you care does it change anything in your life
Michel,
No it doesnt change my world and I don't have any easy answers ...and by the way it does matter...I am not a heartless person who is so self obsrbed in my own mess . Besides don't you have the BEST HEALTH CARE in CAnada??? I am sure some where there is help for your son and while
i feel bad for him, maybe you should focus you anger at the world to finding the help he needs.....
Dewalt
Well, actually, no, it doesn't change anything in my life. And, yes, I'll go to bed and sleep just fine tonight. However, as much as I can't do anything about it I do feel very deep empathy for both you and your son. I have a teenage son and daughter who live full time with their mother, and though the situation isn't near as distressing as yours, over the years it killed me when I knew stuff was going wrong there and there wasn't a think I could do about it. I appreciate you writing back.
You dont have the slightest clue of the help he does get, who do you think I am some dead beat father who stays in the bleechers while my son is suffering.
I'm with him 24/7 and I did find help for him but change takes time and I guess I am just overwhelm at the moment.
I did not lash out at you...su comporta revela su education...thats spanish if you can make it out
Si non je te dirais que ton comportement me démontre ou tu es rendu dans ton cheminement...thats French....both are food for tought.
Don't put words in my mouth... I was in noway implying that you are a dead beat dad. Also I may not know all about OCD, I don't need you to talk down to me as if I were stupid by using different languages to get your point across. I am not judging you I was trying to be understanding an compassionate to your dilemma!!! No one should have to suffer with any illness, and after all you did get full custody of him so you take the good with the bad when it comes to your children.
Since we are on the subject, most of your posts have been very high and mighty and hypocritical of your self. You say one thing and do another. So It seems you are at the end of your rope in not being able to make a decison or stick to it. So be mad @ the world just stay in Canada, America has a plateful.
No responce wanted or required!!!!