1) Reward children
2) take their ideas, emotions and feelings seriously. Dont belittle them by saying you'll grow out of it or its not as bad as you think.
3) Define limits and rules clearly, and enforce them.
4) Be a good role model, let your children know that you feel good about yourself, also let them see that you can make mistakes and ler from them
5) Teach your children how to deal with time and money
6) Have resonable expectations for your children
7) help your children develop tolerance toward those with different values.
8) Give your children responsabilty
9) Be available
10) Show them that what they do is important to you
11) Express your values
12) Spend time together
13) Discuss problems without placing blame or commenting on the child's character
14 Use phrases that build self confidence
15) Show how much you care about them )) HUG THEM (( tell them they are terrific and that you love them
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Suffolk
Suffolk
I think you are probably a wonderful Dad and I am so glad that you have been given this opportunity to develop a deeper relationship with your son before it is time to go out into the world on his own.
Eileen
Thank you so very much for the compliment Eileen
You are right it is a blessing
As far as wonderfull goes...I'm only trying to do my best, my son seem's to think so...and for me thats the only oppinion that really matters, I'm shure you understand.
We did go see the specialist Dr John Sader who is a fellow in the A.S.A.M and it went great he manage to get the full attention of my boy, by what means still bottles my mind.
My son actually laugh with him and connected wich is a first, all of the others always fell short so he shecdule the next appointment in early august.
Before the actual consultation I had time alone with Dr,Sader so he could know what was going on then my son came in and as I said the connection was made.
I must say that this ma as been my Doctor since 1997 when he was in private clinic so my confidence in him is high to say the least, he also told me that he will not ''work'' alone with my son but in concert with some collegues that I know wich are the summum in there respectfull fields.
The hairpicking as gone down and my son is more relax but still have some obsession wich in time I can only hope will disipate.
Its hard for me to share about this because I loose all objectivity being is Father you know what I mean...
Oh by the way the sun is finally here
and the forecast looks really good !
Hope that you have some to
Best Regards !
Suffolk