finally diagnosed with adhd

By whichwayisup Tuesday, February 10, 2009

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I have been in therapy and regular visits with psychiatrist for much of the past 30 years. Finally at age 55, after prompting my then current shrink, I was put on med for adhd. All of a sudden, my life has come into focus and I'm struggling with a lot of anger due to not being diagnosed sooner. I am also mourning the loss of most of what could have been productive years. Does anyone out there relate to this?

I have other disorders, but they are certainly to some degree, as a result of my mis-treatments - both by the medical profession, and family and society. The latter referring to emotional abuses inflicted because of my perceived unwillingness to do better in life.

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Michel

2/10/09 12:47pm

Hi !

your angry...and have a right to be, I carried anger in my life for a long time but in the long run it never work for me on the contrary, so I get a sense that your going trough much emotions right now so in my humble view if I may suggest.

Live it for what it is not for what should have been as the past is irrelevant...now.

Guess what I am saying is what I wish for you is to look forward to whats to come in the hope that you will make the right decision for yourself....being.

With a Kind Heart

Suffolk

whichwayisup

2/12/09 2:54am

Thank you for your response. I am working towards letting go and moving on. But as I also am working through post traunmatic stress disorder, it is especially difficult. Until I was put on Adderall, I was unable to focus enough to recall and work on past traumatic events, and now I am being flooded with those things too. I feel that some of the traumas would never have happened, if I had been medicated correctly. Thank you for caring and kind heart.

Eileen Bailey, Health Guide

2/10/09 2:01pm

I can certainly understand why you are feeling angry over the "late" diagnosis of ADHD and wonder what your life would have been like, had a diagnosis and understanding have come earlier. On ADHDCentral, expert Terry Matlen wrote a share post on just that subject and I thought it may be of interest to you:

Letting Go: Embracing the New You

There is also a lot of great information on ADHDCentral to help you better understand adult ADHD.

Adult ADHD

I hope you find the information useful.

Eileen

whichwayisup

2/12/09 2:59am

Thank you for pointing me to the article and web site. I signed up and the article was particularly helpful. I could relate to it well. Thanks.

dewalt.17

2/11/09 5:38am

Hello,

It is understandable that you are angry, how ever you can still enjoy your new found life, and maybe it is an opportunity to to make what ever changes in your life that til now seemed a mystery and focus on the positive things in your life.

Dewalt

whichwayisup

2/12/09 3:19am

You are right. I am hoping to find my strengths and things to enjoy. Some things aren't easy though. Like right now my precious daughter is finishing high school and though I tried my best as she was growing up, it is now evident to me, how unready she is for college. Although she has the grades, she is totally immature. Her grades are passable only because she is extremely bright. She has not learned a good work ethic at all. She is not responsible. I never was able to folow through on anything with her. My husband has always had to work practically 24/7, to keep us afloat. So, this is a big issue for me now. As you can imagine, she means the world to me and to let her go off unprepared, is unthinkable. But, my time is up, unless I hold her back a year. My husband and I are praying for the best solution. This is just an example of how this sudden, cold hard reality/clarity, can be really difficult. Hopefully, things have come into focus just in time and we will do the right things for her. Thanks for your positive imput.

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