My husband and I both have anxiety, and we're having a hard time since the birth of our son last spring. His symptoms have escalated to the point where he's having trouble functioning at home on a daily basis, but he won't admit it. His behavior is triggering me all the time too. Needless to say, it's damaging our relationship and I'm looking for strategies to deal with this.

My anxiety has always been managable with lifestyle in the past, and it's something I check in with my doctor on a few times a year. I work full time, and when home, almost all of the babycare and housework fall on my shoulders because my husband refuses to deal with it. I don't have enough time to get in a real workout, but I take supplements prescribed by my doctor, meditate, and relax with a bath at night. It helps me a lot.

My husband's had depression for six years - he takes Wellbutrin, Cymbalta, and Clonazepam - and those symptoms are under control. Anxiety used to be a lot less significant for him. Since the baby has arrived, most of his free time is spent avoiding dealing with things - sleeping or on his laptop. I've lost count of his anxiety triggers now. If he's doing anything around the house or out, he's yelling, criticizing, complaining, lecturing about procedures, trying to control my every action, and acting out. In a few cases he's done things that are dangerous or publicly humiliating. He stopped seeing a therapist years ago (found something wrong and left each one after a few months). He sees his psychiatrist 2-3 times year for his meds. He won't share with me what they discuss.

At work and in social settings, he seems cheerful, energetic, and productive...Which makes me resentful as hell sometimes.

I can only leave the baby with him for maybe 1-2 hours on weekends, which I spend getting groceries, etc. I don't have much time for myself. I'm exhausted, angry, and feel stuck, and I need help figuring out what to do next.