Is my husband's new aggressive behavior due to his klonopin?

Your e-mail describes my situation perfectly. Are you sure you aren't spying on me? I have come straight out and told my husband how his behavior is affecting me and also that I feel that it is unacceptable, even if the klopopin is contributing. Thank you so much for your kind words. I haven't heard any lately because I'm keeping this to myself. Hearing your words really made me cry. Thank you so much.

Please don't think I'm spying on you, because there is no way for me to know who you are! ;) Unfortunately you are not the only one to go through this. I'm glad you have been honest with your husband - that must have taken a ton of courage! What has he said in response - does he take any responsibility for his words? In my own situation, I've had to try to train myself to tell him how I'm feeling, because he's too involved in his own internal issues (and too much in denial, frankly) to be able to read my mind, and sometimes he needs a real wake-up call. :( I very rarely cry in front of my husband, but I did once recently (and I mean, painful sobbing from the heart,) and it really snapped him out of it. Maybe your husband needs to REALLY see how much pain he's caused you. Crying can be a good thing, and I hope you allow yourself to let it out sometimes, even just privately, because keeping it in can make it hurt even more. (Sometimes I get horrible headaches from the stress!)  Do you feel like you can't talk to any friends about it? I know I can't! Please keep writing here if you feel comfortable. I am happy to "listen". :) Take good care of yourself.

I'm sorry to take so long to reply, but I've been just way too busy. I went with my husband yesterday to his psychiatrist appt. and to make a very long story short, this doctor does not believe his behavior is due to the klonopin, but to severe clinical depression. He has put him on two medications and wants him in group therapy. My husband's MMPI(personality test) came out describing exactly my husband's personality and the likelyhood that he'd behave in the fashion that he recently has. We both came away with a greater understanding of why things are the way they are (past issues) and more hope for changes in the future. The future really will tell.

Thank you so much for your concern. So far, my husband hasn't been as awful as he was the last time we spoke. Thanks again, Worried 

Sorry for the delay myself, I was away from the computer for a day :) Wow, I am relieved for you that you seem to have some answers, and especially that your husband "hasn't been as awful" - you poor thing! Do you think he'll follow through on the meds and group therapy? Men can be "treatment resistant" (women too, I know, LOL). It took forever to get my husband just on an SSRI. Is your husband staying on the klonopin then? Will his psychiatrist stay on top of him to take all these meds, to take some of this pressure off of you? It sounds like he has a good psychiatrist if he had him do the test and didn't just prescribe new meds. I really hope he sticks with the meds and the group therapy (oh my, I can't ever imagine my husband agreeing to that!). I know new meds can take awhile to kick in, but maybe the awareness that things are going to get better soon will ease the way. If you have kids, I hope they haven't born too much of the brunt of this. I wish you all good things for the future. daj

He is following through on the meds...at least for now. And I do think that he understands the need for therapy, though he hasn't signed up yet. More than anything, the awareness of what he is really going through deep down has changed the way we both feel, and given us hope for chnage. 

I do have one twenty year old daughter that lives at home. This has certainly affected her, but she also now has more understanding.

Once again, I thank you and wish you the best of luck in your situation. It sounds as though you possibly need to find a better MD for your husband? Worried

I sent a response "privately" (which maybe we should have started doing sooner!). I am so glad things look hopeful for all of you. I really hope things start changing for the better soon. All the best, daj