Hi I'm a mother of 4 grown children, ages 31, 30,28 and 25, The 25 year old was mixed up with the wrong people in high school, did drugs,got pregnant.  we tool care of her the entire pregnancy and beyond.  She did not seem interested in reading and learning about a new baby, would like to want to party alot with her "friends"  We were the ones taking up the slac when she would not get up to feed or change him when he was a little baby boy.  We told her over and over again we would be more than willing to "helP but she had to do her part in taking care of the baby and keeping her room and the her bathroom clean on a regular basis.  Well, I guess she got enough of us and left for months , a coupld of times--baby got left with us. She came back to see him on his 2nd birthday but retuses to even talk to him on the phone, when he is crying and heartbroken just to want to tell her hello, so we played the tough love deal and threw her ouf out of the house and she never wants to come back, again.  She claims she is too ashamed to face us after all of this time .  He hasn't seen his Mom in 4 years and has gone through 1 year of concelling because he fears I will too, abamim him as his mother did and that he wil be a little boy alone with no one to care for him.  My Grandson is so very percious to my husband and I and we love him so very much.  Should w try and bring him over to  his Mom's apartptment so they can get toghether and talk to one another.  It would have to be a surprise visit because she has never said we could visit whenever I offered in the past.    Need some real advise,quickly.  I love her so and miss her soo .  I've appoilized for anything I ever did wrong or anything to hurt her.  She says she misses us but will not come home.  Our hears continute to break, day by day, and I don't know how to explain all of this mess to my 7 year old grandson who only wants his mother's lovee1!!

Thanks for any help.