I'd suggest they talk to your doctor. I'd also get at least your husband to come to this site and ask him to do some research with you. Worse comes to worse, I'd be inclined to say: this is the way it is and I AM taking some time off of work. On the other hand, there are some out there who would advocate that confronting your fears would be the best medicine...I am not one of those people. You need to figure out why going to your job has this effect on you (unless you already know). Either way, it is ultimately your choice. I was married to a man who never understood my problems (didn't even try, wouldn't work with me and told everyone I was crazy)...he still doesn't get it...we've been divorced for 5 years now. The man I'm with now totally gets it and is there for me. Good luck to you.