I am totally in love with a wonderful man but my anxiety about vunerability is creating issues..I am with the most amazing man and we've decided to travel the world together and live together when we're home - in just 40 days (so exciting). He's exactly what I want in a parter and I love him more everyday.

Twice now I have "freaked out" - found some reason to become erratic acting, feel extreme anxiety (border line attack), not be able to find something that will make me happy/explain what I need to be happy at the moment, say terrible things to him (mostly because I am upset that he's upset) and eventually create additional anxiety as I realize that I am hurting the thing that I love most in my life. Any help on why this happens or how to deal with it would be HUGELY appreciated. I truly love this person and losing him to my insecurities would be devestating to me.

I do think that being very hurt in long-term relationships and being finally fully vunerable in this one is the cause, I'm just not sure how to deal with it and make sure that I don't act "crazy" and lose someone who loves me.

Also, is it good to rehash the situation after it's over and good again? Will that help or hinder?

Thanks very much.