My husband has severe OCD, sometimes with bipolar tendencies. He is only allowed to call the county clinic once per day (he'll call as soon as it's open). The rest of the time he uses me as the therapist. There have been times when he seems to "hear" my eyelids open and he'll come to ask me "what to do about his feelings," "am I going crazy," "will I ever get better all the way," "tell me what to do and I'll do it" (in order to be cured), "what about....." If I'm not home, he'll call me. These questions are asked of me, sometimes our pastor, my son, or anyone who will listen. He also feels out of place at social events or church. He'll sit off to the side or in a corner and get upset because no one talked to him. the only counseling he gets is a 5-minute per day phone call to the clinic triage nurse and a medication update every 2 months. He is unable to work, he only has Medicare AB and D. I am a substitute teacher (off work now) and we have no other insurance to cover counseling. He takes buspar, thorazine, anafranil and a host of asthma medication (Yes, he has severe asthma [COPD?] but cannot stop smoking 1 to 2 pack of cigarrettes per day. Needless to say, he is not the only one to feel alone. I have been fighting for proper treatment for over 25 years. Any suggestions on setting boundaries?
