Hi Whitelily: Dr. Kennard certainly had some excellent advice. Given enough time, you would be able to conquer your fear, especially with the help of a good therapist.   One thing that I would recommend, is besides the soothing music, you find a relaxation CD that can help you learn the proper breathing exercises (see my recent Sharepost, "Breathing Lessons" and practice it 4 times a day until you leave on your trip).   The other thing that I would suggest is that you contact Dr. Jennifer Fee or myself at our website The Stress Masters and get a CD designed specifically for stress and anxiety, load it onto an IPOD and use it several times a day before your flight and use it IN THE AIRPORT AND ON THE PLANE. If you use it properly, it will really work, we promise you!  We can even FedEx one to you!   Dr. Diana Walcutt, Licensed Psychologist The Stress Masters