I was on the termination list at my job. I found this out about 3 weeks before I was supposed to. During this same time I ended a 17 year relationship. I interviewed for another job within my company in a different division. I felt like I had all the requirements to do the job. However, I had no idea it was so technical software and hardware. I had managed a call center for insurance. For the first month I was so stressed with the break up and the new job I ended up going to the Dr to get something for sleep. That helped but now here I am a month into the job and that first month seems like a dream or nightmare. I don't remember anything. Now I am focusing better but feel like I should be farther along in my learning. I can work from home but have chosen to work in our office even though noone that I work with now lives in my state. All of my training has been phone and e-mail. Between the new job and the end of a relationship I sometimes feel like nothing will ever feel right again. I think I feel extra stress as I was so worried that at 62 I would not be able to find a job and this wonderful opportunity at my same company became available. However, I fear that they will decide that I cannot do it and I will lose this job and this time would not get a severance package. I hate now that I let the extra relationship stress cause me to float through the first month. What can I do to calm myself and now try to go back and learn the things I should have learned that first month? I am so anxious - I have started going to a counselor.
How difficult it must be to end a long-term relationship like that. I am sure it is going to take some time to adjust to the relationship being over. I wouldn't be so hard on yourself that you gave yourself a month to cope.
As far as your job goes, remember, the company felt you were able to do the job and is taking the time to train you. It sounds like you are taking all the right steps, trying to catch up on lost time, learning the information and working from the office to help in focus and it probably helps you to be around people as well.
Has the company or those that are training you indicated they are not happy with where you are in the training process? What makes you believe you should be further along?
I think it is great that you are seeing a counselor. That is a good way of coping with so many changes in your life.
Eileen
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Actually noone has said anything but It is my feeling that there are so many components to this job and I don't feel even remotely comfortable with all of them. There is something new every day. The person training me is not as helpful as I would like. There is noone in my division in the office I am working out of. They are all in other states.
I am sometimes lonely due to the end of the relationship but I believe the job situation is more important and difficult for me at this time. I do have supportive family and friends to help with the issues of the relationship.
The counselor is not as helpful as I would have thought. She tends to talk a lot about herself and giving examples of how she handled things. Doesn't really help me and I don't know how to address that with her. Any suggestions?