Hi too_tired:
You might want to check out our website ADHD Central to communicate with others who have attention problems. You may get advice from others who have the same struggles you have. You might also consider looking into Neurofeedback, an alternative treatment to medication for attention deficit disorders. Contrary to popular belief, it's been around for nearly 100 years and has lots of research to support its usefulness. I have never seen it fail in an attention deficit person who completes the treatment.
Best of luck,
Dr. Diana Walcutt