Hi hurting36,
I'm sorry that you have so much pain. I'm wondering if your pain doctor is handling your valium prescription (it wasn't clear to me from your statement). If not, I'd take this question to him/her.
You may also try neurofeedback to help manage your pain. Also, Dr. Walcutt and I have had a number of people tell us that our stress management CD helps with reducing the experience of pain as well. Cogntive behavioral therapy (CBT) has also been shown to help with pain management.
I hope these ideas give you some additional resources to help you cope.
Regards,
Jennifer L. Fee, Psy.D.
The Stress Masters