My son was involved with a young lady. They had a child together but shortly after his birth she wanted to go out with her friends. My son turned into a built in babysitter to his son and the son she had with someone else. My son got fed up with her and moved out leaving the kids with her. Well, he found out later on that she started seeing a women. My son, asked her if he could take his son because of her new lifestyle and she agreed. He told her she could see the baby anytime she wanted. She started off seeing him once or twice a week but now two yrs later she doesn't do anything for him nor see him. I have noticed that my gdson will act like a baby and talk like a baby and will call me mom mom. but mostly he'll make up stories about her as if they have spent alot of time together. His older brother doesn't call him and he loves them so much. No one from her side of the family calls or contacts him. My heart is so broken because i don't know how he's going to grow up.
Q: My home consists of grandmom, grandpop, father and son and one aunt.
Bella
Thank you for your comments on AnxietyConnection.com.
First, let me say that your grandson is such a lucky child to have so many people who love and support him. Families come in all different sizes and shapes but what holds us together is love and it seems that your grandson will grow up knowing that his father, his grandmother and many other people care about and love him. That is what is important.
You don't mention how old your grandson is, but if he is attending a day care or school, he could be going through a time when he is hearing about other families and is trying to understand why his is different than the "mother, father, children" type of family. He is trying, in his own way, to cope with those differences and to try to understand and cope with his feelings of being unwanted by his mother. He may be making up stories because in his mind, that is how it should be or that is how he wants it to be.
I would continue to be supportive of your grandson, giving him extra attention and love during this time and letting him know that families are all different but that because his mother is not around does not mean he is unlovable. But please be careful not to put his mother down as he will always have a place in his heart for his mother and if she should come back in his life, he may resent that you are "against her."
It sounds like you are a great grandmother, keep it up and your grandson will be better for it.
Eileen
Bella
Four years old is such a wonderful age. They are so curious at that stage and want to share every little thing with those they love, including lots of hugs and kisses. Enjoy this time with him. Being a grandmom is so wonderful, it is a different type of relationship than with our own children and in some ways much more special. He is lucky to have you!
Eileen
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Eileen,
Thank you so much for your comments. My gdson is four and i love him deerly. For the life of me, i don't know how is mother has moved on without him in her life. He is so smart and caring. Seeing is little face longing for her is very hard on me. But, on the bright side he is happy.
Again, thank you!