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Sunday, June 26, 2011 Munchkin07 asks

Q: Anxiety, Endometriosis and a Job...help!

I'm 22, and STILL haven't gotten my license yet because of my anxiety attacks, plus, don't have a stable job because of anxiety to have a car anyways. This past fall I was in the hospital constantly due to a cyst on my ovary and had an operation to find out I had Endometriosis. I want to get a job but I'm afraid of my anxiety and my Endometriosis stopping me, and the managers won't understand. Can anyone offer any advice?
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Eileen Bailey, Health Guide
6/26/11 8:49pm

Thank you for your question and welcome to AnxietyConnection.com

 

I am not a medical professional and would not be able to give you medical advice.

 

You don't mention whether you are currently being treated for anxiety. If not, that would be your first step. If you are, what type of treatment are you getting? Do you take medication? Have you tried cognitive behavioral therapy? This has been found to be more effective in treating anxiety in the long term. You may want to talk with your doctor and ask for a referral to someone in your area that specializes in that type of therapy.

 

I know that many people with anxiety attacks are held back from doing so much because of their fear of having another anxiety attack. Therapy should help you in dealing with these fears and help you to take small steps to start to take back your life.

 

As far as the endometriosis, what is going on? Are you in pain often and unable to work? Do you need to see a doctor on a regular basis? What is it about this illness that is causing you to not be able to work?

 

Please let me know and I will see if I can find some additional information for you.

 

Eileen

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6/26/11 9:33pm

Well since I was 7 years old, I was treated for depression/anxiety and was on medicine for a long time. I've been taking medicine since then, then they treated me for Bipolar Disorder at 16. I think I was misdiagosed and they made a mistake, giving me mood stabilizers and had suicidal thoughts every day, and also to mention the unstoppable weight gain. I felt worse on the medicines than off of them. Since this past February they made me try mood stabilizers and I went down hill from that. I told them no more, and since then I feel amazing. It's just the anxiety part. They do prescribe me with Clonozepam for those moments that are really bad. I still have a therapist and talk to her bi-weekly.

About the first 2-3 weeks after school started I had a cyst on my ovary and was admitted to the hospital and they feared that they need to take it out just in case and couldn't eat for 3 days. It ruptured, and still had severe pain and couldn't walk, making me withdraw from that semester of college adding more stress. I was diagnosed with Endometriosis the day after my birthday and had pain since then. The pain can be so awful, all I want to do is take dilaudid and lay down. I take birth control to slow the Endometrial growth, and nausea and going to the bathroom a lot is the side effects, along with the Endometriosis and it's a double whammy. The pain basically have a mind of its own, but very bad around my period where I'm confined to my bed.

As for a job, I haven't had one since February 2008. Now that I have this disease plus the anxiety, I'm afraid to have a job but really want to work. My concerns are that if I do get a job, should I reveal my illness or just suck it up? I'm afraid they won't understand me and won't let me work. I really really want my employers to understand and not penalize me for my illness if I need to sit down a couple of minutes. I'm afraid if I have to go to the bathroom and they won't let me, my anxiety starts in and the stress and everything else.

 

I don't know what else to do, I feel very stuck and a bum because of all these stupid illnesses I've got. Any advice is great, and a big thanks in advance Smile

 

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Eileen Bailey, Health Guide
6/27/11 7:54pm

Unfortunately, I am not very familiar with endometriosis. I do know that some women with a lot of pain around their periods because of this take birth control pills every day, rather than only for 21 days. If the pain is causing you to remain in bed during that time, you might want to talk to your doctor about whether this would be an option.

 

You might want to start out with a part time job, maybe only a few hours at a time, rather than jumping in to a full time position. You can find out how your illnesses are going to interfere with your job but by only working part time you lessen the time spent at the job, therefore, if you are having pain you know you will be leaving in a few hours and it might make it easier to manage.

 

I can't tell you whether or not you should speak with your boss about your illness. That is a personal decision and may be differen based on your job and your responsibilities. For more: The Americans with Disability Act and Your Anxiety

 

Eileen

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6/27/11 10:07pm

It angers me to the core that no one, not even doctors, have any knowledge about Endometriosis!! People need to be educated about it! I take birth control like I said in my last post... I wasn't even going for a full time position anyways because I know my limits. Part time is what I was aiming for in the first place. Here is a link to educate yourself AND others about it.

http://www.endo-resolved.com/endometriosis.html

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Eileen Bailey, Health Guide
6/28/11 7:37am

Thank you for the link.

 

I understand your frustration of trying to cope with an illness that other people are not familiar with or understand. Having dealt with mental illness in my family, a topic that is very misunderstood, I know how difficult it is for others to understand something they have not themselves gone through. This, however, is a site for anxiety. Possibly the experts on SexualHealthConnection.com would know more about this debilitating illness.

 

I understand from your previous answer you are taking birth control, but you had indicated when you do get your period, the pain is much worse. The little I know about this illness comes from a friend who also has endometriosis and she also complained of severe pain during her period. Her doctor changed her to a different birth control, one that has no sugar pills and just about eliminates her period and has helped her a great deal. This is what I was suggesting. If it is not an alternative or you are already using this, I am sorry.

 

As far as employment, I offered suggestions as you had asked for and provided information on how the Americans with Disabilities Act can help those with anxiety. Here is another post on coping with anxiety at work: Coping with Your Own & Other People's Anxiety at Work.

 

I hope this helps.

 

Eileen

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1/ 7/13 4:33pm

SexualHealthConnection.com?

 

You're referring a young woman with endometriosis here because this site is an "anxiety" site. Is dealing with a disease not an acceptable source of anxiety?

 

Ridiculous! You couldn't get on Wikipedia or Google and educate yourself for 10 minutes on a disease but you can give advice for it? Lame.

 

I have endometriosis and have problems keeping a job too. The pain is sporadic but not periodic, persistant, and tends to comove with stress levels especially. It's disruptive to our schedule, Eileen, because the pain is so invasive that somedays I wake up in so much pain, I have the option of taking a pain killer that makes me loopy for not hours, but a day and a half - or I can lay in bed and scream. The pain is so bad that I swear, toss around because I cannot stay still and I yell and scream. It feels like someone is open performing surgery on my body.

 

Then, when I am having a "good day" it means I only get the shooting pain up my butt, here and there. Since my disease has gotten worse, I have to go to the bathroom on average 6 - 10 times a day, with urgency. I also have continuity issues with urination and it takes me several goes to fully empy my bladder. I can barely have sex with my boyfriend because if he gets too excited and goes too deep, I am screaming in pain.

 

I did not plan this path in life, I used to be an athlete and I ran half marathons. Now for someone who is in their mid twenties, I am very immoble and lonely.

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6/27/11 11:06am

As far as driving, here is a good article by one of the writers here, Merely Me, talking about her own anxiety in getting a drivers license and drvivng, titled, Afraid to Drive? You Are Not Alone.

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Merely Me, Health Guide
7/ 4/11 10:40am

Hi there

 

First of all I am so sorry you are dealing with so much at such a young age.  Endometriosis is one of those medical issues which is not talked about a lot and there are so many women who suffer unbearable pain due to it but...they don't know where to find support or help.

 

If you look on-line you will see many personal stories of some women's struggles with endometriosis such as this one.  Unfortunately in some extreme cases...some women end up having a hysterectomy to stop the pain. But there are many treatments and options to help before reaching such a critical decision.

 

One of our writers, Jennifer Rackley wrote a series of posts for our sexual health site about her experience with endometriosis.  It may help you to understand how others deal with this. 

 

You will have to be your best advocate and keep going to the doctor and asking how to relieve your pain and treat this.  I don't think many people realize how horribly painful this condition can be.

 

I have suffered from endometrioisis myself...it caused me to have infertility for some years.  I did eventually conceive and I have two boys now. 

 

I can totally understand your anxiety and feeling like...how can you get a job with all this going on.  If it were me...I would discuss your condition with your employer so that you are right up front and honest about it.  I am wondering if you can find a job where you are not on your feet so often. 

 

Do you have support in all this?  Family or friends?  A therapist perhaps?

 

I am going to give you the link to an organization which offers support for endometriosis sufferers called Endometriosis.org.  It appears they offer links to both on-line support as well as local support groups there.

 

Let us know how you are doing in the days and weeks to come. 

 

Thank you for reaching out here.  I really hope things improve for you. 

 

 

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