Last Post and then I'm Gone

Yes, this "certain person" will not dialogue.  If you don't agree with his remarks, you are stupid, ill-informed, not taking responsibility for your wellness & so much more.  Plus, apparently he is so "gifted" that we cannot understand his ideas due to our inadequate IQ as we are only of normal intelligence.

I give you some good advice. If you want to attempt to get rid of me just write to someone on this website of BipolarConnect. Tell them what you think it is that I am doing wrong and make sure to be precise. Explain to them why it is that I am upsetting you or making you feel uncomfortable. If what you say is correct I am sure that they will prevent me from writing here. And I would accept this quite well. If there are good grounds for such an action I will accept it. So think what is it that I have done wrong to you personally and tell someone here who is in position to do something about it. If what I say is really distressing you say so. If there are valid grounds something will be done about it. It is best if a few of you do it sort of gang up on me to get rid of me. I hope that this is helpful to you.

I like this post I may subscribe to it. At least a bit of honesty which uncover unpleasent human dimensions.

Nonethewiser,

Let me first say that I and others liked reading your posts and comments and it is a shame to lose you as a member this way.  This is not any one persons' site, it is made up and contributed to by various individuals with differing perpectives but common ground that is shared.  We share our views and recognize others.  Each of us is the authority on his or her life and recovery and we know what works for us.  We do not have to accept anothers' advice or ideas.  We have a choice.

One of the most current topics has been Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).  Your statement here reflects what is termed black and white or all or nothing thinking, which is irrational or not true.  I will highlight the key words of each statement and explain why the statements are irrational.

That if we don't do things his way, that we will never do better.  Why would you think you must do things his way?  Do you have a choice?  If someone tells you you will never do better, is that rational?  Can they determine for the period of your life the course of events to come?  This statement is all or nothing, if this, then that and does not allow for the many alternative possibilities.  It also forecasts future events that there is absolutly no insight to.

I see that if we Don't agree with a certain person on here, that we don't know what we are talking about.  This statement also reflects black and white thinking.  If we do not agree, then we do not agree.  This does not mean one or the other party is the authority.

Despite the thinking errors here, if one rushes to judgement, based on what is seen in a statement and not considering what is behind it, what is going on or has brought a person to a statement, then one misses something critical to understanding the person and what is behind their words.  Wherever you go, there will be someone that has ideas that conflict with yours or says something that is not agreeable to you.  Did you ever consider that it may be their problem and not to take it personally?  You have a choice how to think about a situation and so a choice how to react.  You also have a choice what advice to take and what does not suit you.

Sorry to see you go.  I hope you find what suits you and better days ahead.

This is an open forum and in saying that, anything you post is subject to a reply from anyone joining the site. It's usually good to get different perspectives from others dealing with the illness even when we may totally disagree with what they have to say. You can't take everything personally and I totally understand that is sometime very difficult with our illness.


I would like to see you as well as everyone else stay and feel that they can post whatever they want, whenever they want without fearing a personal attack or taking things personally. So I guess my best advice is to agree to disagree and especially when taking advice from me understand that it is only advice...take what you need or can use and leave the rest. Just because I say something dosen't make it gospel.

I "PM" private messaged you...  check your "home" thing here if you want

I hope you get it and well

I hate to see you leave

Tabby

Im new to this site and have used the Shareposts as almost like a journal or a blog.  I have found it to be VERY therapuetic.  One thing I have found from this site, therapy, and my support group is that everyone is different and something different works for everyone.  And even things that work for you now may not work for you later.

I think that you bring great value to this site. 

Anyways, Im learning - and you need to go where you feel comfortable and find what works for you.

Good luck!