What should I do if my friend who is bipolar gets mad at me for no reason I can understand? I get very confused and hurt when this happens, i know she can't help it but it doesn't stop me feelign hurt when i get yelled at for things i havent done. is this wrong too? should i not feel hurt? And after she yells does she remeber that she has said anything upsetting to me? I am only 11 and my friend is an adult. i would apreciate any help you could give me. Thanks.
-broadwaygirl-694
Hi darling,
My partner has bipolar. I'm an adult and its sometimes hard for me to understand. You are an amazing young woman. Firstly to know this is an illness and second to try to understand it and do what you can. That is very mature.
The anger is the thing that I find hardest to deal with. "SadMom's" reply was really good. Don't argue back, keep calm but go somewhere where you can calm down. I say to my partner " I just need some time out, its my problem not yours" when he starts. We also have some topics which are not allowed to be discussed. If he starts then he knows I will go home. I hope you have somewhere to go while she calms down and this will help you to calm down too. It is part of the illness. There is a good book called "the bipolar workbook". My partner is working through it now and it seems to be helping him to recognised what triggers his bad moods and how he can learn to control them. This take practice though. Your friend might be able to borrow it from a library. It is also available to buy on the internet. Good luck.R
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I wouldn't put up with abuse, verbal or otherwise from anyone. Why are you friends with an adult? Is she a friend of the family?
Yes they do get upset for apparently no reason. I've dealt with this issue for the last 15 years. When my son is having a rage, I talk very calmly to him then leave him alone. He does not verbally abuse me or call me names or anything like that. He cries and screams for a bit then he pulls himself together. I do my best to not scream back because it only makes things worse. I just leave him to it. I also don't try to reason with him when he's angry because what I'm saying at that time doesn't get through anyway. He is out of control and he has to get himself back under control before we can have a discussion about it.
I have known her for a long time and she is like my second mother, she has helpped me through a lot myself. she does not abuse me she just sometimes says things that make no sense at all. thanks for your coment! :)