Plans made and hopes dashed/ every time I make positive plans somethig comes up

You really need to come up with some attainable goals that are realistic in nature. Not having the monies for the class tells me that you didn’t do the research necessary to complete the task. I can set a goal of becoming the richest man in the world in three weeks…the next thing is to complete it.

The use of the word “every time” is untrue and it may feel that way to you today. Crawl, walk and Run…you are trying to run from the get go and falling on your face. I’m not saying that the new years goals are unobtainable… it’s just unrealistic at this point.

Try a goal like I am going to set X number of dollars aside each week so that when the next session starts, I will have the monies to afford it and not have to take it out of my check all at once. Take a little extra out for contingency plans that may arise like supplies, books and gas.

With reading your post I also see you have an excuse for everything. I don’t mean to say it to cause hurt…more to point out that you are your own worse enemy. You’re the one holding yourself back. Why not try letting thing just happen instead of trying to find a girlfriend, get married and live happily every after in two weeks….stop with setting those goals.  

The right person will come along, but to be totally honest…most woman are not looking for someone to fix or save. You are presenting yourself as a helpless, hopeless in need type person that is unattractive.

People are looking for others that enjoy the same things, have a good outlook, funny, kind hearted and not mad at the world. Right now you really need to work on getting yourself well again with the right attitude. Frank…you are a really good person but you need to stop the whining and making excuses, it’s a turn off.

Reread your posts and tell me if that was a woman posting…is this someone you would want to hook up with and give your phone number too?

Hello Frank...Your have planned some wonderful goals - it must be very frustrating to be in a frame where you cannot realize them.  Been there.

Give yourself some time - you will get back of track.  I would concentrate of doing some volunteer work (very rewarding) and perhaps getting into a bipolar support group.  These people are very non-judgmental and it might help you with your issues concerning you uncomfortableness with groups of people.  Also been there.

Education is so important.  Hope you can find a way to get into the classes.  You have been given some sound advice from others.......Judy

Just be careful of people you meet on the internet.  I am quite paranoid about these people as some of them could be quite dangerous.

Take care of yourself and keep making plans.

Whatever you do, don't give up.