Well I have had the strength for 3 days now not to contact my BP husband after he told me out of the blue on Monday that he didn't want to see me anymore. We are separated and were trying to fix our marriage but it seems he is in one of those moods and I'm not good enough for him AGAIN.  Supposedly there may be someone else and I'm sure he is talking  to or seeing someone that will temporarily give him the ego boost high he is needing.  It's happened many times before and usually I will hear in a week or so that he never wanted anyone else, he was just looking to hurt me because he was angry.  This time his anger comes from me needing him last week when I was having a rough time.  He said I made him feel guilty for  not being with me and that makes ME emotionally unstable and he can't handle that right now.  WOW....if only he could remember how many times I was there for his truly unstable emotional episodes!  Anyway it's the usual rollercoaster I keep reading about with people who won't seek any help.  I would stand by him to the end, totally be committed to this man and making our relationship better.....WOULD do that but not anymore, I CAN'T allow my heart and sanity to be bounced around like a ball.   I pray for the strength to keep me from contacting him, the part of me that still loves him is worrying if he's ok.