Good day

By Christina Sunday, January 20, 2008

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so this was a good weekend. He was listening and understanding me completally I love it when we can have a peacful time together he doesn't get anxious. I don't know about me though I was being a little mean and I don't know why I wasn't irritated or anything. Everything that came out of my mouth was smartass or ragging. I tried to have a good time though we went out alot which was so nice, he hates going out sometimes. It was good though we both had fun. I wish I could find the center of my attitude though. Any thoughts?

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Hopeful mom

1/21/08 5:54am

Maybe there's some resentment there you're not dealing with? I find if I'm mean, there's usually some underlying thing that's bothering me to death.

Eric

1/21/08 7:54am

It called being passive aggressive when you are either directly or indirectly saying off the wall or smartass comments toward the other person. I would say you’re not a happy camper of what you have been through thus far…only natural. But if you don’t get a handle on it and allow it to continue…it may be the demise of the relationship as you know it.

Stardust

1/21/08 12:44pm

I find I behave in the usual manner no matter what good or bad is happening, sometimes. I'm so used to being depressed, I act depressed even if I'm not, sometimes. Or I "know" that when something good is going on, I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop to spoil it all.

Christina

1/21/08 2:31pm

That hits the nail on the head. Its like if I'm the one making the smartass remarks and acting like a jerk then 'when' he does it he has a reason to. I know now though that as much as a jerk i am to him he's not always going to act like one back. I think im just testing my boundries with him because he does it with me. is that bad?

Hopeful mom

1/21/08 7:37pm

Need to talk to him openly about it. Communication is the only way to work through it. You're angry and you have a right to be, but this isn't the way to deal with it.

stronglady

1/21/08 8:40pm

I sometimes do the same thing with my husband. I now realize it is because when everything is calm and the good times are rolling, I really feel like saying "Hey, why can't this happen all the time! Why does the bipolar you ruin it twice a year!!!!" Knowing I can't say that makes me push it down and turn angry. Talking and venting (not to him) has helped me to tune into that and turn it off. If my husband is capable of being fun, loving, everything I wanted in a man, why would he "choose" to change that. It's the bipolar, not him; unless he is just being a jerk that day :)

Christina

1/21/08 10:25pm

My best friends' husband is bipolar too so we are eachothers shoulder she's been dealing with it alot long than I have so she gives me strength to proceed in the direction my heart tells me too. I just wish sometimes I could talk to him about everything because he's my partner. I guess theres a right time and place for everything. He's really supportive though about me reaching out for support here which makes me at ease because he's open to everything I learn.

merlo

1/21/08 9:03pm

I know what you mean. I have learnt to be myself. Sometimes. I still love my partner more than anything. I am a very strong person so this is new to me 5 years. self obsession is hard. a day at a time and keep strong. john

Good day

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