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Dear Friends,
I am 24 years old and my wife to be ( we are togheter 5 years) has just been diagnosed with BP dissorder.
I have noticed in last two years that something is wrong - fights over silly things that continue with she telling the most HORRIBLE things about me and my family ( especially my mother, and my mother never did or said anything against her - on the contrary) with destroying many material stuff in appartment, rapid mood changes, unexplained fears, etc.
There is something that separates her from other people - she is almost a genious, maybe she is i dont think i am qualified to say that, but she is EXTREMLEY gifted person and probably the most inteligent person i have ever met (you dont want to start a verbal conflict with her). Tremedous talent in music and art - specialy in drawing - when she was 9,10 years old, her work left speachless european affirmated artists. She reads persons character just looking in his eyes (she was always right), amazing at analyzing stuff - she understood movies from Polanski, Forman, etc. at very young age. I could write tons of pages about her abilities and talents, but let's just say it short - she is almost a wonder human, but very shy of her abilities. She is scared to show that to people so she very often acts like much less intelligent person ( on purpose ).
Attacks (that I noticed) started two years ago, and first it was once in 4,5 months and then every moth (her excuse was menstrual cycle), then every week and three weeks ago when she had coupe of attacks in a row and she felt really really bad, so finally she decided to go to see doctors ( to check hormones, etc. ) but she also visited psychiatrist, who gave her EFTIL tablets for start, and she felt great.
After few treatments and seeing gynecologist, they decided EFTIL can affect very badly her reproductive organs so they stopped it suddenly and physiatrist decided she needs to be clean of pills for 4 days.
The second day being off EFTIL she had the WORST attack ever in her life. She completely lost sense of reality she was screaming that she found her mother and her god ( her grandmother was baby sitting her when she was young because her mother was working and she thought her grandmother was taking place of her mother all life and that she never felt her mother - far from truth of course, her mother was always with her ).
Couple of minutes later she became convinced that she stared remembering that her father and her grandmother sexually abused her when she was very young (never happened of course), and she completely lost it....
She called her parents to come to our apartment immediately, because she was sure that her grandmother is a psychopath and that she will die that night, and that she will hurt/kill her mother and father in sleep.
After she thought her father is also a psychopath and that when he arrives he will hurt her. Her mother relaxed her a little, and we went to her other grandmothers house so she and her mother will sleep there that father or other grandmother wont hurt them.


Concentrate on yourself!
First of all...you have no say in her treatment with not being the husband or immediate family member. What should be taking place is her mother getting her inpatient to get the right treatment in a safe environment.
You need to worry about yourself at this point and marriage would be the last thing I would be thing of. I know its hard to hear, but its the truth. She needs to be of a clear mind and realty based thinking to enter into a marriage. Right now she is not even close.
I am not saying to rule it out, just not right now. You need to get your act together and be there to help her. The last thing she needs is to see you going down the tubs on her account. She will get better in time and in the meantime...you have to keep living.
Offer support and love when you can. Don't get caught up in the drama or irrational thinking taking place. None of it is realty based....good luck