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Living with my mom whos Bipolar

By Cornbeef22 Friday, September 03, 2010

My first post ever. I found this website, and id really like to talk with people who live with someone whos bipolar.

My mom and dad have been married for 19 years now, its my mom whos bipolar, she hasnt always been bipolar i think, i think it was back in 2000 she started to show the signs, but non of us were sure what was going on in her head. Later she had some health problems, and than one day the doctor informed her she was Bipolar maniac depressive. I never knew what it was, except for the jimi hendrix song. But through 7months from being diagnosed, the family noticed she started to do no so normal things. I was told by her doctor theres phases, but I dont know what they are, but im pretty sure they wern't in order with her. Some days she would "clean" the house and not finish it, other days she would go shopping for a bunch of stuff we didnt need. It wasnt THAT bad for two years, untill she started to yell, and make everyone in the family was against her, especially me. I talked to my older sister and she said my mom was the same way with her when she was living in the house, so maybe it was jealousy of another girl in the house hold? I'm not sure if thats normal with people who have dipolar disorder. But than it got a time where my mom wasnt leaving her room, crying all the time for 3 months, we thought that was normal. One day my mom snapped and when crazy on me for no reason, she called the police and made it seem like i did everything, so i left, i stayed at my friends house for two days. when i got home my room was torn appart, things broken, and my mom wasnt home. My dad said she didnt take her medication for a couple days and had to go to a hospital (im not sure what the correct name for it was) she stayed in there for a week. when she came back everything was fine, i was pretty mad at her and didnt talk much, except for saying shes a "horrible mother" typical teenage things to say. In high school I got a boyfriend, which met my mom twice and thought she was the creepest person to be around so never came to the door. One night my mom came into my room screaming and saying i hate her, my dad always said to keep quiet, and my mom jus got even more mad and brought up things that didnt mattered, but made me feel like i was doing wrong.

Same thing like the last time, i left, she did work in my room (meaning took a hammer and put holes in my wall and whatever she found). That was the second to last time she did that. And things got better once again, cause i old a lil older, Graduated. But still am living here. And been noticing my mom acting weirder? i can say? Im not sure if its normal if anyone can help me out? but my mom talks to herself in a different voice. we used to have a dog which was her teddy bear i can say because he was always with her, and well she had a "voice" for him. But since hes been gone shes been talking in the same voice and having full on conversations with "him". CAN SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME IF THIS IS NORMAL? 

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rick from ri
9/ 3/10 4:37pm

Just read your post, I'm sorry to hear your struggles and feel even worse for your brother. Bipolar is a horrible disease. I tried to help my wife for 2 years with no luck. My kids had to be removed from the home because of her behavior(wouldn't get daughter of bus, drinking all day, irresposibiitity w/job and money). She also had violent outbursts. I had to get the kids away and divorce her. I loved her more than anything but thats not enough.The people closest to her will be affected the most. Fighting with her or arguments or stress will trigger her. Is she medicated? Does she drink? If she's med compliant and learns her triggers she'll be okay. If she drinks and does not comply with the doctor she'll get worse. Move out when you can, learn about the disease, help her and your brother and father and screen your calls. Bipolar people aren't stupid, they just have visious mood swings. It seems the higher they get, the worse they fall. Good luck.

 

9/ 3/10 5:02pm

Hi rick from ri

Im really sorry bout your wife, and what your children have gone through and your divorse.

My mom is medicated on alot of medication her doctors given her, and she does drink occasionally. My mom has violent outburst as well. I know bipolar people arent stupid, But i really wish i can figure out what really goes through her head.

Being young still my job cant get me a place of my own yet, but at the same time i dont want to leave because my dad needs me and my lil brother to keep an eye on her.

thank you for the comment

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By Cornbeef22— Last Modified: 10/14/10, First Published: 09/03/10