Icant believe How I was treated on my first visit to my counselor. This woman had me on the defensive about my disorder. I was defending my behavior. I never got help really I just got told I need six visits to work on daily living skills.
Then she includes theses are the same issues you delt with before havent you learned anything?
I felt angry and upset she kept telling me she was a clock watcher.
I was dead in the water. There was no connecting at all. I have to go back to this woman. I dred this. I want to scream at her. I want to tell her how I really feel. How she is wrong to jump to conclusions about me.
When ever I try to confront someone it always blows up in my face so I am going to be biting my lip. I want to scream at this woman for her treatment of me...
Hey there vsayre,
Wow! Your experience with this so-called therapist was terrible. If I were you, I would fire her, pronto, and find someone else. We sometimes forget that it is our money paying for these "therapists" and they have a certain degree of responsbility to cater to our needs, not the other way around.
Is there some reason why you have to stick with her? No matter what type of insurance you have, Medicaid, Blue Cross, etc., you do have a say in your treatment. You do not have to put up with this kind of therapist! Is your therapist an MD, a PhD or a master's level counselor? If she is a master level's therapist, all you have to do is tell your doctor you want a different therapist because you and your current one have been unable to establish a rapport together. You don't have to lay blame, if you don't want to be confrontational. You can just say you both gave it your best shot but there is no connection there.
I used to think I had to be stuck with whomever they assigned me. Regardless of how they are getting paid, though, they are working for YOU. You are not working for them. You are paying THEIR salary, not the other way around. It is you and your money that gives them a job. Without you and your money, they would not have a job. Sometimes, they forget about that. Sometimes it is good to remind them who they work for.
So, unless she is the only therapist in town, I say "fire her" and find someone else. If she is the only one in town, go to another town. Don't let her be the say-all end-all for your therapeutic experience. It is costly enough to pay for good advice; why pay for something less than that?
Best of luck,
Kay