My boyfriend has bipolar disorder. Ive been with him almost four years. He has been to a councelor and has been on medication, but for the past 4 months, he has refused to get help or take his medication. He has been physically and mentally abusive towards me and I dont believe that breaking up with him will help him and Im also afraid of what will happen if I do break up with him. I am only 18, and I do not know what to do. I have stuck by his side, but he accuses me of wanting irrational things, and accuses me of wanting to break up with him. I have lost all of my friends because he "does not like any of them". My parents dont understand why I am with him, because they just see him as a "lowlife". I can not get advice/help from them. His actions have taken a very large toll on me, physically, mentally, and emotionally. I have just started college, and I know that I will not be able to succeed with him treating me the way he does. I know that he does not want to be like this, because after he hurts me, he cries and tells me he is sorry, and always promises that he will never hurt me again, but then it always happens again. I dont know what to do anymore. I feel I cant help him. Im not a counciler, I cant prescribe him the medication he needs. His excuse for not taking his medication is "what, are you trying to turn me into a drug addict?". His family does not know how to help either. When he hurts me, they as well as I, refuse to call the police because if he ends up in jail, it will only worsten the problem. We feel the only other option is to take him to a mental hospital, but he will not go willingly, and if we have the police come and take him to a mental hospital, he will think that they are taking him to jail, and he will go crazy. He has threatened suicide many times, and if he looks out the window and sees the police in his driveway, I fear he will attempt suicide because he will believe that he is going to jail.
Please, I just need advice. There is no one else I can talk to about the problems that I am faced with.
Published On: September 16, 2008
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