my family member is bipolar, she is evil deceptive, has hard core feelings on anything that does not go her way and trys to controls everything nobody is right but her, we get a few thousand a month as tribal members and never have to worry about anything.yes she has used drugs but i think s...
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tabby
Saturday, August 16, 2008 at 04:32 PM -
Child abuse
Eric
Sunday, August 17, 2008 at 05:13 AMI am with tabby on this one in that I really don't care what you adults do but when it comes to children...that’s where I draw the line in the sand.
From reading your post, you really do harbor some strong negative feelings toward this woman for what she has, had or is doing right now toward you. If you are getting your wires crossed and mixing in your own negative feelings (there is a bit of a slant) it will only end in disaster for you.
Child abuse is a serious matter and cannot be taken lightly. I have to admit that the majority of the time when I hear child protective services are involved, it usually stems from issues between the parents of the children and the caller who called CPS and has little to nothing with the kids.
I have even seen kids make up stories and then laugh to get back at parents and others in professional role models such as school teachers to get their way. CPS has to wade through a bunch of crap to finally get to that kid that really does need their help.
So lets leave it here…if you take away the feelings you have for their mom and really think that the kids are being physically, mentally and verbally abused…call CPS. If you on a rant because of something their mother have done to you in any way, it might be good to just not have too much to do with her.
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tabby
Sunday, August 17, 2008 at 07:25 AMI agree with the children manipulating the CPS system to get a good laugh at parents and/or adults. I've seen that as well working within the MH system.
It causes a lot of chaos, destroys lives literally in some cases, and all cause the child wanted to get back at the dad or stepdad or mom or girlfriend, etc. or the teacher who told him/her to sit down and pay attention and the kid didn't feel like it that day. However, as you said, not all children who claim abuse are manipulating - some truly are abused and are needing someone to protect them. It's just sad that the ones who are manipulating the system are overshadowing the ones who truly are being lost.
You are also correct in that adults tend to use the CPS system as a means of a WMD (weapon of mass destruction) in their own right to destroy and cause chaos in another adult's life to get back at them for something they felt was a slight. This may very well be the case in this scenario. There is a lot of hatred and disdain in this post for this supposed family member with Bipolar.
Who knows? However, if the children are truly being abused and the adults who know are sitting on their thumbs allowing it - then I have no empathy or sympathy for the adults period.
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semi
Tuesday, August 19, 2008 at 09:17 AMthank you for you comment, the children are my families first priority, that is why we try to interact with positiveness as often as possible, when i am around my actions have nothing to do with her sickness, i treat her normal (it is hard to see your family member in such a position and can't seem to do anything about it). as a matter of fact we always act like things are normal which i know is a mistake but i am not a doctor. child services has been involved with the mom in the past. the church has been involved to help with the process of healthy family unity and faith in God and prayer. i do have a lot of frustratio, just disappointment, unhappiness and some shame because it is my cousin and because i have seen a lot and as i have gotten older with my cousin i try not to get emotional but it is hard. she is sick and does not want to reconize it and does not like to take her medicine and others around suffer. yes we have spoken and just try to take action to help but, now i think it has caused more isolation to our family members and her, except on celebrations and holidays when things seem to go normal at first than the personality demom comes out...i hate this bipolar problem and i think it is unfair causing actions of selfishness and relentless behavior it causes deterioration in family values....this bipolar problem has effect on all family members and and has no boundries....and i could surely write a book and i think that peoples actions can cause reactions and if you live with both you are affected in someway or another and that means that everybody in the community of this disorder needs some help with the coping platform and there should be a law that would make it mandatory for people to get free help or access so they will not socially spread their potentially harmful personality disorders to our innocent society (which is children, adults and animals)
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tabby
Tuesday, August 19, 2008 at 07:56 PMI agree, it is very hard when a person doesn't accept responsibility for their behavior and it's consequences. It causes a great deal of chaos on everyone surrounding that person and from there it outflows like a pebble on the water - the ripples outwardly flow from it.
Unfortunately, there really isn't a lot you personnally can do except to limit your exposure to this person if she triggers such strong resentment, anger, frustration, exasperation, and emotion from you. Keep an eye on the little ones and be there for them in particular, let them know they have someone to run to if need be but, limit your exposure to her if this is what she causes in you.
As far as she and her husband, again - that is truly between the 2 of them to work out.
There is help out there for her if she'd just take it. Yet, she has to want it badly enough to reach for it and take it and it seems, according to your posting, she hasn't gotten there yet. Sadly, she may never get there.
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you are on a reservation and I understand things are done a bit differently however if you, or any other adult, is aware that a minor child or an adult who can not defend themselves due to a mental or physical disability is being abused - and does nothing to defend and protect that child or adult (who is truly mentally or physically disabled to the point of not being able to care for oneself without the aid of another) - then you have no one to blame for that abuse to that child or adult but yourself.
as far as what to do with this family member. she isn't bipolar, she has bipolar and unless you are of a true spirital deity you can not proclaim her evil. she may do horrendous and insidious things but to be truly evil one must proclaim her to do so and I doubt you are capable of doing so.
that being said... if she won't take medication or go under the guidance of a medical doctor (preferable a licensed psychiatrist) then there isn't a lot you can do outside of calling 911 if she becomes a blatant danger to herself or anyone else.
as far as how her husband responds to his wife's requests and demands - this is between the 2 of them and not anyone else's business. if he is having issues with how his wife treats him then it's his issues.
apparently this triggers negative feelings in you and if so then my suggestion is to butt out and steer away. if you must offer what support you can to the husband - perhaps doing so but not necessarily in view or hearing of the wife so as to not trigger your own negativity would be advisable.
Finally, if you know or suspect those innocent young children are being abused and/or in danger and you do not contact the authorties - then you have no one to accuse or point fingers at except back at yourself if anything harmful should happen to them.
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