I would say that you have your plate full, and i sympathize with you and totally agree that this anxiety sneaks up on you, which it did for me in the last 2 weeks..I think also if you have no one to express your anxieties to and keep it all in, it is worse,  The book bi polar happens by julie fast is very good, Basically, she gives you some ideas to follow when different things happen to you and how you feel...like listen to music exercise and or do yoga and pilates...I know also that you can look ok but inside you have so many emotions swirling around inside,sometimes you just need someone to  agree or listen to you vent about your worries, and a lot of times a man cant do that, they get stressed out and dont feel comfortable about us women talking about detail.  One book i came up about that has helped me focus about my triggers, which is basically worry turned into anxiety, was Edward Hallowell on Worry.  I found an article about Taming your Anxiety.  This ideal is similiar to Julie Fasts Book in that you are in control of the mind and how you run drama in your mind.  Last but not least is a Book, The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle about how you can be in charge of your mind and worry.  I am working on that now and feel much better, it is hard to do after so many years of the mind taking over of things and making them worse and I get more irritable and more anxious.  Check it out, we just need to know how to apply it on a daily basis, i think we just have to carry the book with us and read excerpts from it from time to time for a month til we can actively do it.  You know after reading that book, voices in our heads, naw, everyone has a dialouge going on, whew thats a relief, we are just more inclined to worry and obsess on things and get carried away.  Oh, dont forget to excercise and destress, yoga and pilates, the exercise has to be aerobics, walking or treadmill or bike.  I noticed a big difference in husband, daughter and myself. ok Take care and take one day at a time.  linda