I have been seperated/divorced from my ex wife for almost 4 years. She is extremely emotionally abusive to me, even after the divorce and uses the kids as pawns in her manipulation, as well as harrasses me almost daily about finances, money, a woman I have been seeing for almost 2 yrs, kids, her moving out of state so that I can't see the kids...the list goes on and on... I have attempted to speak with a mediator, the Dept of Child Services, my attorney, courts and the local police on more than a dozen occassions... all with no luck or help. I don't know what to do, I fear my kids are going to grow up either on drugs or in jail because of how she emotionally and mentally treats them (as the law has said there is no physical/sexual harm done so they can't do anything) She swears excessively at them, to them, to me in front of them and they are starting to exhibit or mimic her behavior... I have no where else to turn and have no idea of what options there are to help.... Please let me know if there is anything I can do to get my kids the help they need or what can be done to make her stop?
Jason, it sounds like your situation is very stressful, painful and frustrating. Is there no one in the extended family who could intervene and help. Keep trying to get help through the court system, the justice system, and the child welfare system and documemt everything. In the mean time, you need to get some help for yourself. There is nothing worse than feeling absolutely helpless in what seems like a hopeless situation. Going to a therapist/family counselor can help you get a handle on some of this stress as they might help you to see things from a different perspective and help you to find the resources you need. In the mean time, try to provide as loving and stable a home environment as you can when the kids are with you.