moving

no ones moving yet my dad's looking at houses in lake city fl. every time i say a word about moving to my bf he freaks out and makes me freak out about it. I dont want to move but my mother's a problem and my dad cant take it with her anymore.i have friends here and its hard

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It's normal and human to feel angst, anxiety, and stress when looking at moving and changing.  Even good moves and/or good changes bring on all the anxiety, angst, and stress. 

If with Bipolar, this makes things much worse cause those with Bipolar do not do change well.  We like routine.  We like structure.  We do far better with stability.

You don't know for sure that you will actually move.  I'm taking it that it's all in the "discussion" and "looksee" phase.  Yet, in the meantime - you've gotten stressed to the max and the adult bf isn't helping you - per you - by "freaking out".

Even if, in the end, you do move with your Dad -You'll not necessarily lose your friends because there is the internet, cellphones, and well... snail mail.  You can still keep in touch while making new friends - WHICH YOU WILL.

You are smart, likable, got a good personality (comes through your posts), and you are a scrapper when things get tough for you. I admire your scrappiness.

Maybe if you look at this as a possible adventure and not so much as a horrendous thing.... like a "start over", new home, new school, all the possibilities out there that are exciting

Maybe by taking one stressful thought you have at a time and look at each maybe in a different view for a few seconds... they won't, each, not look quite as overwhelming. 

You know.. break the big thing down into little parts and try to think of the little parts in a not so stressful way but in a slightly more positive way.  Big things sometimes don't look so bad when broken down into little parts.

If you end up actually moving away sug you would still have means to keep in touch with all those you hold dear to you while meeting more and more folks who will become as dear to you.. in the future.

Please take your meds as consistently and regularly as possible and please find a therapist and/or counselor for whom you can meet and talk with to help you work life's struggles and changes with.

I'm sorry you are so upset and I'm sorry you don't feel good about all this and I'm sorry that - at least to you anyway - no one seems to be helping

and well... I've probably not helped much either.

thank u for ur help but i've started over one to many times and i dont want to do it again i wish my mother would move so i didnt have to :-(

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