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Help! My husband's in denial and driving me crazy!

NZbound Community Member August 09, 2010
  • I think my husband has bi-polar disorder.  He goes into the manic depressive states, and I'm always on eggshells, not knowing when next he's going to be hyper happy, depressed or ready for a fight.  Apparently, he also early on told his mom he was "different" and has always felt he never fits into society, can't make it work for him.  He always has to be right, and know better than anybody.  I always have to give in to keep the peace.  We've only been married for three years, but I've sure acquired grey hairs since that time.  The problem is he thinks others are the problem.  How do I deal with this?  I'm going crazy, and feeling desperate and hopeless.

2 Comments
  • Tabby
    Aug. 09, 2010

    He has to be willing to go in for a psychiatric evaluation with a psychiatrist to be diagnosed with whatever he may OR MAY not have.

     

    He then has to be willing to follow whatever regimen that professional person recommends; whether that is medication, intensive therapy, meds and therapy, etc... that is, if he is even diagnosed with anything to start.

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    RHMLucky777
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    He has to be willing to go in for a psychiatric evaluation with a psychiatrist to be diagnosed with whatever he may OR MAY not have.

     

    He then has to be willing to follow whatever regimen that professional person recommends; whether that is medication, intensive therapy, meds and therapy, etc... that is, if he is even diagnosed with anything to start.

     

    Without proper diagnosis and proper treatment, for which he is willing completely to follow and agree, not a whole lot you can do about his behavior and/or perceived mood swings. 

     

    You will need to figure a way to live along with him and/or around him, while living with him.  Even if that may mean, you going to individual therapy yourself.

     

    The emphasis, I keep trying to get at is:  HE HAS TO BE WILLING and agreeable and accepting.  Otherwise; you have what you have and you either learn to live with it or you think mightly hard as to what your other possible options may be.

     

    If he becomes an obvious danger to himself and/or others OR threatens to do harm to himself and/or others, the responsible thing is to notify the proper authorities for assistance.

    • NZbound
      Aug. 10, 2010

      Yes, thank you.  I figured as much.  Looks like I'll have to be patient, calm myself down, and be ready for opportunity to coax or drag him in.  I'm at my wit's end.  Wish me luck!