I went and saw the welfare officer at work, told her what was going on etc. One of the first things she said to me after an hour and a half of talking was that she had seen many people with Borderline Personality Disorder and that I was not one of them. She helped me find a new General Practitioner w...
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baby steps
tabby
Sunday, August 31, 2008 at 09:55 AMre: baby steps
Narelle
Thursday, September 18, 2008 at 07:12 PMThanks tabby, I really appreciate your suggestions. I am determined to work through this - i've made it this far and managed (with difficulty) to keep my job, finish 3 degrees (and trying so hard to get my Doctorate - but that's once again on the backburner and at the moment I don't care.) raise my child and stay in my relationship. Everyone says how "strong" I am. Boy am I sick of being strong! I mean I know it's a good thing to be but would be nice to have a break from having to fake it till I make it and keep bashing my poor head against those brick walls that just keep re-building themselves. Now's the time to make it - in increments of course!
Thanks again
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baby steps is all that is needed but to keep taking them, one step at a time, one small foot in front of the other
if you stumble and derail a bit, and you will for it's the nature of the illness, don't be so harsh on yourself like most are, wipe yourself off, try to learn from the experience what you can, please don't use the illness as an excuse for behavior even you know is or was inappropriate, and start the steps up again
eventually, with time, therapy, coping and managing skills under your belt, meds perhaps, learning what triggers your symptoms and avoiding them if at all possible, a somewhat structured routine of sleep and activity (exercise, gardening, for examples) - with time the stumbling and derailing won't happen quite so much or be so utterly bad - with further time and further steps, they will happen even fewer to the point of almost rarely.
POINT - it just takes time and if you are committed to following through and holding on while the time passes, going through the ups and downs, it will eventually kinda balance itself out. At least that's what the the ones in the know say, both old timers with the illness and those who work with them. Trick is, not to get discouraged and give in or give up.
it just all starts with your baby steps!