Wednesday, February 04, 2009
I am a mother of a 3 1/2 year old. In October i had a nervous breakdown due to a lot of stress. I am being told the only time i was allowed to see my daughter was undersupervision. ( mind you this was not court ordered) The father had become a big jerk and is being very difficult. I would like custody of my daughter, I took care of her for 3 years and that did not seem to be a problem with anyone. And now they are saying ( my father's parents) that they are going to try and get custody of my daughter. And all i am thinking is not over my dead body! I really need a good lawyer or a really good court case that i can referrence. Please someone help! you can contact me at carlton_sara@yahoo.com
I too fought this battle , in court , my ex is in the process of winning full custody of my 5 yr old daughter because he based his argument on me being unstable and a drug addict that the Dr prescribed. He crippled me financially to the point where I could not fight it anymore in court and now I am resorted to visiting hours with my baby girl.
He is in the police force and has major contacts with justice personel etc... I didnt stand a chance. This court case pulled me down into a spiral of depression with my bipolar and now living without my daughter causes a daily struggle of fighting depression.
My advice to you is this.... spend ALL the money you can no matter what , fight this battle and dont give up , it hurts loosing your child , it never goes away , it hurts more because I know I AM a fit and STABLE mother and this was an injustice. FIGHT , DONT GIVE UP.
thank you for sharing that with me. I am really scared. Well there is one thing that might help, if you go to a law libary and begin looking up custody cases with mental disorders and you find one that is very similar to your life and your situation and it is in your state then you can go back to the judge and show him the case if it is in the bipolar parents favor. that is what i am trying to do now. I mean the one thing i don't understand is why the hell do the spouses let you take care of your kids the whole time and then one day cause you are having a bad day or possible a episode that can be controlled in certain ways such as getting out of the enviroment for the moment or whatever you could possibly do to stop from becoming manic. I just don't understand how the actual government found me to be a fit mother when i was worse off than i am now. That something else you could look into. Are you meds alright i have found abilify to help a lot. just a small doses and that takes care of me if i have an episode. I am really sorry to hear that you lost your daughter, If I get a good lawyer i will let you know. Also one more question for you Did your bi-polar disorder come right after having your daughter, becuase that's when i started noticing that i was in fact bipolar
i also had this nightmare situation, after 8 yrs clean sober and looking after my son i had an episode.... my ex played it dirty even when recovering from episode that he played a big part in bringing about..... i was in and out of court for 3 years ,,,, worst of all i realised that my son had been told many things re my illness that it totally changed our relationship thanks to his father, my son treated and behaved differently towards me, which was and still is heartbreaking, so much so that he is nw living with with his father, who also happens to be a cocaine dealer even tho he goees to AA and NA meetings, having told the police on more than one occasion that he was dealing cocaine they said nothing they could do baout it unless i was able to give them precise details of his activities......meanwhile my son who is now 14 believes that his father does an honest living as a painter decorator whilst spoiling my son with the latest games toys etc...... keep contact with your child no matter what and in time to come the truth will out ...stay healthy in mind body and soul ...see it as an investment for the future years with your child ..... love to you