How do you go back and fix what you've broken? What do you do when trust is shot and any chances for reconciliation are ruined? I guess most importantly, how do you set your feelings and wants aside, and offer up a sincere, heartfelt apology that the other person can actually hear?
Wish I had an easy answer. Relationships can be tough - you likely know this as much as anyone. Have patience, know that no relationships are perfect. When everything is about to come crashing in, we bipolars must find the strength to survive.
If it's over, you will eventually pick up the pieces and bring good energy back into your life.
Snail mail is under-rated. Write your feelings down on paper. Then all it takes is a postage stamp. My heart goes out to you. Time heals.
Judy
It is difficult to reconstruct. Most of time reconstruction only happens when we fall on our knees and everything seems to be lost. When all seems to be drifting, to open your heart may be the key. Time is a healer and sincerity a very good tool. Don't let negative thoughts overwhelm you. Believe in yourself and show that believe to others. I had a time in my life where fmily and friens didn't trust me due to a lot of bad things I've made and it took me some time to get their confidence back. It wasn't from one day to another. I had to pay for my dues first. But I made it and for sure you will also. Hang on there!!! If you need a friend just send a message.
Going back and trying to start all over is not possible.
Start Today show what you have change in yourself.
Take one day one moment and cherish it.
I have a writing I wrote it is this.
Life is not a tape recorder.
You cannot go back and erase.
You push forward and enjoy Today..
That is how I am dealing with my life now.
Mistakes are many in our life.
But they are to teach you.
To make you stronger.
You have a good day TODAY
Vicki W.
You don't because you can't. You do your very best every moment of every day and go forward doing so with a dedication to changing you, no one else, just you, and free your mind of any negative affect from past questionable behavior.
Be selfish, be very selfish and spend every moment working on you, your psyche, your sickness, your hurdles.
In time you will recognize that you are not a bad person, your misdeeds are forgieable and problem have already been reconsidered. You will realize you have inched your way forward, freed your soul from self-hate, your doubts replaced by an enthusiasm and positivity you probably haven't experienced for years.
Give yourself the first break and the rest will fall into place. Be patient and be your best friend, and sooner than later you'll discover you're not your only friend.
I believe you find out in trying times who has the spirit of God in them and how normal we actually are. You will learn over time that the process of forgiveness is a two way street. It takes time to learn to stop feeding off of the dysfunction of others. It takes calm , honest communication that is not weighed down with expectations . I guess what Im trying to say is, if you surround your self with people that posses the ability to truly forgive , as well as educate themselves about your illness God will do the rest. I have chosen to omit the people in my life who feed off of my illness and though it hurts Im healthier for it.
God bless
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Wow! I actually had the most amazing conversation. I tell you...taking responsibility for your actions (and ultimately your life), is not only humbling and therapeutic, but it's also healing for those you've hurt. Sorry to rant - I'm just in a very reflective place and everyone is asleep.