Four Questions
Three readers have asked about living with bipolar husbands. A fourth asked about a bad situation with a bipolar wife. The first two questions can be answered together. The third and fourth questions each require separate consideration:
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emotionallydrained
Monday, September 24, 2007 at 05:43 PMre: very helpful
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Tuesday, September 25, 2007 at 11:29 AMHi, emotionally drained. Bailing out on a relationship is the hardest thing in the world. I know - I did it nine months ago. Believe me, you made the right choice. I'm bipolar, but being bipolar is not a license to abuse your loved one. It doesn't matter whether the illness is responsible for the behavior or not. Bottom line - no one should have to put up with outrageous behavior.Having said that, I do think that bipolars are the greatest people in the world to have relationships with. This is the positive side of bipolar - sparkling, sexy, sensitive, creative, great company, etc etc.It's not surprising that everyone loves a bipolar when their on their game.Lucky is the individual who finds a bipolar mate with very little downside. But too often the reality is way too much downside.
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emotionallydrained
Tuesday, September 25, 2007 at 12:09 PMmy mind is really messed up right now... what you said about the upside is so TRUE. That is why I have stuck with this relationship so long. when I get really messed up with all of this (going our separate ways) and never seeing or being with her again. I think of how wonderful she can be. My problem Is feeling so in love with her and feeling great about our relationship again, and then suddenly treated like I was her worst enemy. It really messes with my head.
I think of my life without her in it. At first, (with all the anger from her verbal abuse), I think my life would be so much better without her.
Then the depression side of me tells me what a sorry excuse for a person I am. Major depression, I love her and really need her. I need the one that loves me.
I don't know what to do. she needs my help but she doesn't get treatment so what can I do? this is what I do. I flip flop back and forth. Today, before I read your post I was going to email her and tell her to come back that I love her and want to help her.
CRAP!
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alicia
Thursday, October 25, 2007 at 02:04 PM"bipolar excuse" as someone put it!!! To the one who wrote this please keep your very un-educated remarks to yourself. You sound stupid!!!!
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I am so glad I found this web site. My loved one just left minutes ago. She has been in a rage for a couple months now.
She was going to kick the dog in the face with her boots on. I had to stop her. I saw her do this before. She got ****** and left.
I am releaved. I hate to say it but she has been so hurtful and I just can't take it anymore. Thanks for helping me see the light.
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