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By G.J. Gregory Tuesday, December 11, 2007


The other day I was channel surfing, and came across a movie I hadn’t seen in years. ”A Beautiful Mind” was released in 2001 and won an Academy Award for Best Picture. I doubt there are many who haven’t seen this movie. But this time I watched it through an entirely different lens. I’ve learned so much, and changed so much since it originally came out. It’s a show about a brilliant mathematician with schizophrenia, and how he suffers, and eventually overcomes, his condition. My wife thinks it’s depressing, but I disagree. I see it as positive, even validating. You can buy this movie used for about $6.00 on Amazon. Watch it again – you’ll be glad you did.

Want a positive book on bipolar disorder? Tired of tragic stories where the lead character suicides? Or reference books full of statistics and medical information? Not that there’s anything wrong with either, I have many of those books, and treasure several of them. But sometimes you just need some hopeful and uplifting material. That’s where I recommend Tom Wootton’s ”The Bipolar Advantage”. This book is an excellent motivator, and it gets us to see sides of this illness, and therefore ourselves, we hadn’t seen. A review they have on Amazon says it better than I ever could:


Ultimately, The Bipolar Advantage will stand as a guide book for those who don't want to accept a diminished view of their lives after a diagnosis of bipolar. It s a road map to wellness and strength that will stand the test of time and the changing winds of popular bipolar treatment modalities.


You won’t agree with everything the author writes, but that’s OK. Do yourselves a favor and buy the book. Less than eleven bucks new, and half of that if it’s used. But don’t lend this book but to your mother-in-law, she’ll think you’re a superhero. And no, I have no interest in this, other than to advance a mindset of happiness and success.

This just scratches the surface of the bipolar disorder themed books and other media the wife and I have experienced over the last year. If there’s interest, I’ll post more. How about others out there? Have any gift suggestions you can share? Good or bad reviews? Leave a comment and let us know!

Anonymous
Judy
12/14/07 2:47pm

Hi G.J.,

 

It was nice to read your article.  A meaningful Christmas message of family tradition to all.  And thanks for the gift suggestions.

 

It reminds me of a book (practically the only book) available on bipolar of any credibility when my diagnosis was made.  It is "Moodswing" by Ronald Fieve, and has since been revised (I think in 2002), a book well worth reading reviews on. 

 

Have a happy Christmas, and enjoy your "special" gift this year.

 

Judy

12/14/07 3:01pm

Thanks Judy for reading and taking the time to leave a comment.

 

That book is one I have haven't read.  I see they have it for $.01 on Amazon.com - you can't go wrong there.  They also have one by the same Author that looks interesting:  "Bipolar II: Enhance Your Highs, Boost Your Creativity, and Escape the Cycles of Recurrent Depression--The Essential Guide to Recognize and Treat the Mood Swings of This Increasingly Common Disorder"

 

Also in the bipolar self help or recovery books I'd check out John McManamy's book "Living Well With Depression and Bipolar Disorder".  He packs a ton of information in that book.

 

Thanks for your post, I will be checking out the book and author you mentioned. 

 

Anonymous
Judy
12/15/07 7:42am
Thank you, G.J., for your research and taking the time to reply.  Any book by Ronald Fieve is high on my list for checking out -- thanks!  And John McManamy's book is on my Christmas wish list.  Regards...Judy
12/14/07 10:28pm

Thanks for a great SharePost. Thanks for sharing about your own family experience and how your family has made it more meaningful.

 

My undrsanding is that the population of Australia will spend in the vicinity of between 60 & 80 billion dollars over this Christmas, New Year break. An obscene amout of money in my opinion... Imagine how many people we could help in our society, alone, with 60 billion dollars?! We could renew our health system and greatly assist our indiginous population, ect, ect, ect.

 

But ultimately it comes down to one person and one family at a time choosing a different way to live, and purchase presents that have real meaning. Thank you for choosing a different path with your family.

 

This Christmas my wife and I will purchase presents, however we will not be doing so by making those purchases from highly expensive specialty stores. 

 

Your idea of buying some gifts from thrift shops is a good one & we will look into that. Before we were married I often only purchased cards for almost everyone. I would buy my sisters kids a small inexpensive gift, but none for the rest of the family - only cards, my family knew thats all they would get from me.

 

My brother- in-law is wealthy as he is a medical specialist. So, their children recieve a rediculous amount of presents, anywhere between 8-12 highly expensive gifts each year. These kids, of whom there are four, have for the last 10 plus years expected to recieve such presents.

 

I wonder just how much this is negatively impacting their attitudes and subsequently expectations. In terms of how they will aproach life in the future. Will they have unrealistic expectations that will cause them to crash and burn in various areas of thier lives? Will they believe at least to some degree that they have some kind of right to recieve great easy excess from life?

 

It's important to realise that these kids are treated like this through out the year as well as at Christmas. I am afraid for these kids whom I love very much. 

 

I dont think that book you recommended is available here in Australia, however it is almost certainly available over the internet - I will look into it.

 

Thanks again for such a meaningful 'Post' and I congratulate you and your family for changing your attitudes regarding gifts at Christmas.

 

Thank you

 

Peter

12/17/07 10:26pm

Peter - thanks so much for your comment. 

 

Those are scary numbers you quote, and I believe them.   You are right, 60 billion dollars can feed or heal a lot of people.

 

May your holiday season bring you peace and happiness no matter how you choose to celebrate.   

12/18/07 5:14am

Ineed to apologise for getting the amounts wrong. The real numbers are from 6-8 billion dollars. Sometimes my dyslexia puts figures and words where they should not be. So, sorry about that, however the principle remains the same doesnt it?

 

The real figures are equally scary when you consider that Australia is a population of around only 24 million people! 

 

I hope you and your family have a special Christmas and that you are blessed with a great new year. 

12/18/07 6:53am

When it's billions of dollars, a decimal point is almost meaningless.   I agree, the principle is the same.

 

Thanks again for your comments. 

12/21/07 10:12pm

Well, my figures above were based on previous years. New statistics out 4 days from christmas say that Australians on the back of a very strong economy have thus far spent 35 billion dollars - as I said before we are a nation of only 24 million people! I think these figures are obscene.

 

Peter

Anonymous
Anonymous
12/15/07 2:44am

 I think I would fit in your family rather well as far as the humor goes. One of my nine year olds gifts is a giant jar of dill pickles, she loves them and can eat a small jar in one day. My son-in-law has already gotten his Christmas present. We paid for his part in the duck blind he hunts in, because they didn't have the money to pay it right here before Christmas, and he loves to duck hunt. I hate feeling like I'm obligated to get certain people Christmas presents, because they get me a gift. When my brother and I were kids growing up, we got one big thing and a few smaller things, but our favorite thing was a box we each got, that had fruit,candy,nuts and fireworks for New Years in them. Oh the good old days!   This is my first Christmas without my mother, (she died in April) so that has kindof over shadowed my Christmas. Everyone tells me it gets easier with time, but when the greatest person you've ever known is gone it leaves a giant whole. Sorry to be so down. We don't as a family have alot, enough to get by I guess, but I catch myself felling guilty because I know there are so many people that don't have anything, not to mention alot to buy Christmas with. I have this thing about feeling guilty, I don't know why. I feel guilty if I'm driving down the street, and I see a little old person walking. I picked up a little old man today,carrying several bags of groceries and carried him home. He was so greatful and so tired. I can't help myself. I guess I'm crazy for taking chances like that, but I keep on doing it.      I think Christmas has gotten so far away from the real meaning. I think we should get one gift to open, and take what we would have spent, and feed the hungry people of this country and other countries. It could be a new tradition for Christmas's to come what do you think?     I don't guess I've helped much on the gift ideas, but I do hope everyone has a very Merry Christmas with no ups or way downs.     Emma

12/17/07 10:36pm

Emma,

 

I'm sorry about your mother.  Holiday's seem to accentuate feelings and memories, don't they?  I agree with you, if we could funnel a portion of the money we spend on Christmas gifts towards food or healthcare for those who need it we could solve a lot of society's problems.

 

I think I'll stop by your place on Christmas day for roast duck and dill pickles - it doesn't get much better.

 

Thanks, as always, for leaving a comment. 

12/16/07 12:11pm

It is so good to hear of others that do just what our family does...with limited funds and the REAL reason for the season in our hearts we have never "overdone" the purchasing of gifts either...

Always getting books at the library that they have discontinued throughout the year and lots of kids movies this way too, they are around 25 cents to 10 cents depending on the format (hardback or softcover, dvd or video) and they  make wonderful gifts for they aren't damaged just not needed at the library anymore for various reasons. I have found some treasures this way, and some people donate their books from estates and have found first editions and etc for a QUARTER!! So that is a good place  to look if you're like our family and love books....the little ones get books and pbs movies/shows they like.
We also, when they were younger used to go to the dollar store (have one there?) and everything is a dollar and thye had to use their hearts to find something for each person on their lists and the presents always ended up being so precious. This place has everything from journals to picture frames to bubble bath to tools! So it is a great experience for them to learn how to thriftly (is that a word tehee) spend money and still touch the hearts of those they love at Christmas time...

One of our own gifts to each other is each year i take cardboard boxes (usually jug water box size that holds 3 jugs of water) and make a christmas house by cutting the pieces and assembling with a hot glue gun and cutting out windows doors etc....and then we get together (THE KEY ELEMENT THERE) and we slather on the iciing and then put on candy to make our candy house,

we play christmas trivia which i have compiled from questions about various Christmas trivia (like what was Rudolph's girlfriends name) and we play it kinda like you would family feud, 2 people up at once and whoever knows the answer rings the bell and answers....it is more precious than gifts and so bonding, filling the room with laughter, even for those that are kinda shy this brings them out and into the spirit of being together...

SO like you GJ we use the thrift shops, the dollar store, and homemade gifts like one year i made a rag rug for my daughter to put in her new apartment from simply braiding old shirts that i had cut into strips and then tacking it with needle and thread into a spiral shape, I have made an old end table into a "hip" end table by modge podging pics of their favorite rock stars/movie stars and sayings....there is so much we can do without the all mighty dollar interfering in such a preciously Holy and family time.

Thank you for recognizing that and for making me feel like I'm not a weirdo for being this way, it is actually the first time i've ever shared our family ways with anyone and trust me so many would think that it is not enough to just send from the heart...but it is...for that is what will be judged one day anyway...

thank you

and OH YEAH "AN UNQUIET MIND" Is also a good book to give along with "TOUCHED BY FIRE" what a wonderfully inspirational book!!!

Thanks for the new titles, plan on putting in for them right now at the library!!
Hope you and yours have a good holiday season GJ, and a blessed New Year.And i send my deepest THANK YOU to you for always being there for all of us, you provide Christmas year round in that form for sure! You're children are lucky to have parents like you and your wife.

Take care,

ctrygirl

12/17/07 11:15pm

Ctrygirl,

 

Thanks for your comment.  Sorry it took me a few days to get back to you, it's been crazy around our house.

 

On the used books, you'll never guess what I found at a local thrift store.  A first edition hard cover with a perfect dust jacket of J Edgar Hoover's "Masters of Deceit", written in 1958.   I paid 99 cents for it.  I'm still unsure who I'm giving it to. 

 

Rudolph trivia?  I'm down for that.  Rudolph's girlfriend?   Clarice.  Although after seeing "Silence Of The Lambs" I'll never hear the name "Clarice" the same way again.   Here's one for you - who's Rudolph's father? 

 

As far as you being a "weirdo", not a chance.  I love being around people who are unique, in fact I can't think of a single "normal" person I'm close to.  

 

Thanks for the recommendation on the books, I ordered "Touched With Fire a few weeks ago.  It's still in the "to read" pile, I'll have to move it to the top.

 

As always, thanks for your comment.  Merry Christmas to you and your family. 

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By G.J. Gregory— Last Modified: 01/15/11, First Published: 12/11/07