Britt365

   The mind is its own place, and in itself, can make a heaven a hell or a hell into a heaven....Paradise Lost...John Milton1967

   Feelings are not right nor wrong... they just are... Unknown

   BPD effects consumers and our supporters in just about every aspect of our lives. We consumers see the illness in its full destructive horror, that can succeed to cutting short one's life or make the rest of our existence diffecult and at times down right miserable. The depressive side of BP with which we can all unfortunately identify. But we also see an aspect to our depressions that equally resonates with us - how our suffering can strengthen us, ennoble us, and embolden us, often to achieve the impossible.

  Our sense of achievement need not be the same as famous BP's, nor for that matter what our families may expect of us. It is simply enouph that we survive from day to day with the kind of grace that used to define courage. It's a life-long mission in progress, for us BP's to feel comfortable with ones self. To be kind to ourselfs, at certain times;  is very hard to do.

  Compassion and reasoning seperate human beings from the animal world. We should never lose our sense of humor. Hold out a helping hand. Be pure of heart and soul. Walk tall....

Truly

Joe Buck

  Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be... Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865)... (Abe was unipolar{depressive})

tls

3/14/08 10:40pm

Abe may have been bipolar - see McManns website.

it hurts my head.

I found out last week that my daughter has cancer.  I had to go back to work this week because my disability case was closed because I didn't get the paper work in on time.  I have a research paper due on Sunday about an Enlightenment philospher that I really don't care about and I haven't started the writing yet.  My sister had a horrible flu and I took care of her kids for a bit to give her a chance to get to the clinic for a check up and then take a nap.  Oh yeah, my area of NY got dumped with over 2 feet of snow last weekend which just complicated everything.

I really don't think anyone really cares about any of this because I am just a face on a profile page sitting at a computer somewhere in New York.  Now, my sister, my mom, my duaghter, my boyfriend, my best girlfriend, my doctors, and the small group of women friends I have all care about this stuff to one degree or another.

If I was in crises I wouldn't post here first and hope to get help - I would call my doctor, my boyfriend, my mom, etc., but not my sister (see below).  You get the picture. 

All week I struggled to manage my health and my time and cope with all the things that add up to life.  Everything has worked itself out, as it usually does.  My daughters cancer can be removed by lazer surgery and hopefully she has learned her leason about going to the tanning salon (she's only 18 - takes a lot to learn lessons).  I love the new job and I am actually look forward to next week.  I'll probably be able to write the research paper in less than 6 hours since I've already done the research.  My sister is better and back to work (she's a counselor on a crises hotline while she finishes her masters in social work so you see why I won't call her in a crises but I let her write papers about me)  And, finally, a lot of the snow is melting and my drive way is a huge mud puddle and I've heard geese flying north and everything will be okay.

So, what I'm trying to say is, I haven't really been on the internet much this week and even if I had I may have read your posts and not responded because I don't have the answers.  I know it's not all about me - that's not what I'm saying here.  I'm trying to express that to many people the web world isn't the priority world and we can't always be there.  Most of the time I wouldn't know how to help because I really don't know you that well.  All we can do is tell you how it is with us and hope you get something from it.

I'm sorry we failed you and you have every right to be angry but don't be so quick to judge because you really don't know that much about us either.

Vicki M, Editor

3/23/08 11:10pm

Hi Tls,

 

I hope your daughter works through the issues and comes out with flying colors!! Tanning beds are promoted as safe to everyone, but nothing beats plain old sunshine.

 

I think you've hit the nail on the head when it comes to peer advice. Many of us can not spend the time online to answer all posts, all the time. As true to your comment, even if we knew what the problem was, could we actually fix it? Probably not. But talking out the issues is a very good option

 

I hope you will stay in touch and let us know how you are doing!! Even if it is a challenging day, let us know, we'll all be happy to commisurate!

Vicki M

Hi Britt365,

I don't get online as often as I want to because I just can't. I have alot to do, work full time and just trying to find the time to get a haircut sometimes is hard. We all have issues of some sort or another and we all deal however we can. Just cause we can not fix one another, doesn't mean we don't care. We all care about each other, otherwise we wouldn't read these forums.

I hope you are having a good level day, but if not, by all means post something out there and let us know. You'll get responses. Sometimes when you least expect them!

Take care and make sure you stay in touch and let us know how you are doing!

Vicki M