IM ACTUALLY DRIVING MYSELF INSANE & IM FEELING COMPLETELY UNHEALTHY

By nicole le gras Thursday, July 26, 2007

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I dont know what is wrong with me - i feel like im playing dectective all the time & if i see someone slightly not right - im flippen out and getting so angry inside i could just scream.Im becoming obessive and controlling and this is not helping my situation.Im just waiting to find something else that has happened behind my back .. i'm completely just waiting for it.How messed up is that.I'm ruining every chance of getting our relationship back on track because i have been lied to and im struggling to trust and believe her.Please give me some advice - before i turn into physco woman that is going to end up hurting myself even more.

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Christina

7/28/07 9:23am

I am exactly where you are. My gf has BP 1 and has lied and cheated in the past. It's hard to rebuild the trust when the lies keep building up. We've found that making boundries helps a lot. So does talking to each other. There are days when it seems like all we do is talk about what's wrong with us, but in doing that we're working together and making us stronger.
You are not alone in feeling like this. Good luck

nicole le gras

7/28/07 9:42am

thanks for the reply - nice to know im not alone and im acting like a normal person to this situation.What do mean about boundaries ?

Token

7/28/07 9:46am

Boundries are things that you will absolutely not tolerate. Cheating for example. You wouldn't accept it from anyone else why accept it now? That's a deal breaker. You have to ask yourself what you're willing to live with and what you're not, then set boundries around that. It sounds harsh... trust me I am not always fond of them but it helps. It lets you feel like you still matter.

nicole le gras

7/28/07 10:02am

Ok ok ... we do have some sort of boundaries ... when it comes to going to gay clubs ect .. but when it comes down to the relationship .. maybe we should sit down and do a list for each other ( im very much like this ) where we sit and write what is expected in the relationship and what is not & what are her key things to relationship & mine and somehow come to conclusion what this relationship should be based on.I guess its all about communication and understanding.Just wish they knew us the way we knew them.

The we wouldnt have to sit down and do the list.Relationships are hard work and there is no such thing as no work in a relationship.Im forever working but i never feel that she is working.I dont know if i have block against seeing that but am prepared to look at that.

Sheri

10/ 1/09 7:41am

I think if you should stop whining! What I think first what you should do is get your own life before trying to figure someone elses life out. Stop asking stupid questions. And get a life. Your gf is crazy and so are you. So the two of you deserve each other. :) Have a nice day.

IM ACTUALLY DRIVING MYSELF INSANE & IM FEELING COMPLETELY UNHEALTHY

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