Hi all,  I did not know where else to turn.  I have BPII and finally after 8 years of wrong diagnosis, etc I feel that I am on the right track until my husband of 28 years decided to leave me.  He said he has not been happen for a long time BUT there is also another woman involved that he has been confiding in.  I could take him leaving me I know our marriage needed work but he will not take responsibility for this other woman.  He has lied to me about where he is.  He has moved out and I don't even know his address but he comes and goes at "our" house as he pleases.  We have one son age 17 at home yet and of course he wants to spend time with him BUT he moved out to get space and don't I deserve the same consideration.  He is convinced that all our troubles are from my illness and that it is my choice how I deal with my illness.  I take my meds, see my pdoc but he thinks side effects of meds etc are a choice and that if I would just take a walk - you all know that sounds benign but when you feel like whale shit at the bottom of the ocean a "walk" is the last thing you can do.  How do I set boundaries?  How do I make him see that my mood swings right now are not secondary to an illness but to a 28-year marriage ending?  He refuses to take any responsibility and gets irritated with me if I tell him to call before coming to the house.  He has to know that his actions have consequences.  HELP - I need a good lawyer.  I have been going to my counselor and a support group and he moved to a house on the lake.  He thought that would be fun!?!?! I am falling apart and scared about hanging on.  Thanks for listening.