In my personal opinion darling Ice Queen, this does not sound like YOUR illness that is creating this situation to make you doubt yourself and creating a situation where you begin to question your relationship my darling friend. Instead it sound to ME< and just my personal opinion here: that regardless how much this boyfriend likes to fix cars, no matter how many people call him to come over, or what ever the situation might be that he is being rather inconsiderate of the time that YOU have spent to make a nice evening, to come all that way just to be with him, and all the efforts that YOU are making to make the relationship a success. I do not know all the details, only what you have shared with us darling, but I can say this, regardless of if one is bp or any other illness this is just PLAIN OUT RUDE and inconsiderate of him to leave you hanging and waiting and vying for his attention period. Perhaps he knows that he can get away with this and that you will be there the next time that he is interested or doesn't realize exactly how hurtful this it to you. However, it seems that you have shared this with him from what I gather from your post honey. I know this; people will treat us how we ALLOW them to treat us; I know that sounds harsh and i hated it when I was also told this at one time...but it unfortunately is true at times; those that are bent toward being more self interested than interested in being considerate and thinking of other's feelings will inevitably seek their own interest before thinking of other's first. Darling I so wish this wasn't going on with you, I know we've talked before and how much you try so very hard to overcome so much and how you often have been crushed by the way others have treated you and behaved toward you. I also know, that like me, you often blame yourself for this FIRST instead of trying to look outside your own realm (as do I TOO!!) and look at exactly how these people are treating you and if they would treat another like this ...if so, they are simply rude, if not, they are taking advantage of our limited self-confidence and our tendency to blame ourselves for behavior...as was indicated at the end of your post where you excused his behavior by saying how he liked to work on cars and etc; I do the SAME thing at times (not with my husband though he is very very supportive but with others who should not treat me as they do). Darling we must be strong and let them know they can NOT treat us this way, just because we have an illness is no reason for us to blame ourselves for other's shortcomings honey. I do it too at times and am working hard on thwarting that part of my personality; anyway, he has other interests sure; as do you too; but when time has been planned for the two of you to be together THAT should be his priority. Remember this our illness is no different than someone who has a physical illness (of which i also have TWELVE of!!) something like heart problems, diabetes, thyroid problems etc... those illnesses wouldn't make one feel they could run over the person the way that we oft get treated and nor would it make the one suffering from the illness believe they should be treated in such a way and blame themselves for it right??? Well , we too need to adopt that mentality that we ARE worth the time, we ARE worth being treated as NORMAL human beings, we simply have an illness a disorder no different from any other. Please remember this and know that I love ya girl, I will be praying for you that this situation improves and please letme apologize for being late answering a post to this...i haven't been on here for a while and sure have missed you girl!! Please take care and hey CHIN UP GIRL YOU DESERVE NOTHING BUT THE BEST!! Stay on your medication, stay strong, and stay well!! God bless darling, ctrygirl

I completely agree with you being angry.  Hell, I would be pissed and probably would have done lost my cool and blew up on his ass way before now if it was me.  That is just not the way you treat someone you love.  Especially since you ain't seen each other in a while.  You would THINK he would be wanting to see you as much as possible, or atleast that is what I would think.  I think it is disrespectful and shows how important you are to him.  Bipolar people need stability in their lives, not total disarray.  I'm sorry, but he needs a reality check and needs to do some serious soul searching because you need someone who is going to be there for you all the time, not just when it is of convinence for him.

 

Thats just my personal opinion. :)

 

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