I don't really know where to start just in such a mess right now. Gusse it's best to start from the begining, I started a relationship with a guy that i thought a lot of i thought that i had finally found someone and that this was it for me, i told him all about my bipolar and he said he didn't care because he loved me for who i am not because i have a disorder. For a long time we where happy we talked about getting married and having children everything was great untill one sunday he showed up at my house talked to me for an hour and a half about what he had been up to ect. Then all of a sudden he told me it was over because he wasn't sure how he felt about me and he wasn't sure if he could handle the bipolar. When i questioned him he said that his mum and friend had mayed him see that he wouldn't be able to deal with me if i went into a hypomanic episode becuase he isn't a strong person and that he likes to be looked after and that i couldn't do that. In the end he left in tears later he text me saying i do really love you i have never felt this way before but we can't be together i am sorry i hope you will be ok and take care. which totaly confussed more. I fell in to a deep depression and was on the vergue of suicide but i manged to pull myself out of that. Now i have found out that i am 11 weeks pregnant, i know i want to keep it but i am scared of telling my ex we havent seen or spoken to each other in 9 weeks. I know he has to be told but i don't know how to tell him and i am scared of what he will say. the only way i can tell him is to go to his house and tell him face to face but i keep puting it off. I am worried that his mum will get involved because he tells her nearly everything and he does what she tells him, even when she told me that she hated me and that i was a freak he stood there and said nothing. I have planned to go and tell him tommorow but not sure how to tell him. I really need advice. So alone. 
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Well, if you decide to tell him, not saying that you should right now, I would make a clear point of it to him that you are not interested in having his mother boss her way into your life either face to face or through him. And I would also say that this means that if he wants to be a part of the child's life he should think about growing up and making decisions for himself, like a 'real man/dad'. I know it's hard loosing someone you have feelings for, but my bipolar was diagnosed after I got married (was going through a normal phase during and attributed past crazies to other things) and trust me, my husband is responsible for more than he would like sometimes, that doesn't even have a lot to do with hypomanic as much as me just having an 'off' day. He still loves me dearly and I know it. I tell you this because there are many wonderful men out there who would do the same for you, and it may or may not end up being him. Just take care of yourself, find out everything you can to be safe while pregnant, you may find you are fairly stable during that time who knows. Take care anyways, you're not ruined just more interesting
Thankyou for reply to me. Well i thought it best to get it over and done with. Tryed to tell him on the phone but he hung up on me, so i thought right the only way to do it is go to his house. You actuerly helped me because i had no idear what say, hopefuly i will be strong enough to tell him. not really anything to do with his mother but he is always listening to her no matter what. He does certainly need to grow up wish i had seen it before. I hope that one day i will find someone. Fingers crossed. Thanks again.