I have nothing have nothing, not now i misscarried my twins.

I am very sorry for the loss of your babies Ice Queen.  I am very sorry for the miscarriage.

YOU had absolutely nothing to do with their loss, not one thing to do with their loss.  As much as it hurts, and I completely understand the pain - I sincerely do, your ex had not one thing to do with their loss neither.  You are in pain, you are angry, and you want to lash out and your ex is suitable for this for the pain he had already caused you... but, he had not one thing to do with their loss neither.

It is insensitive to tell someone, who has miscarried, that it "must be meant to be".  IT IS insensitive and cold.  It means that somewhere in the universe, someone meant for the babies not to be and for you to not be their mom... this is what it means to the mom who has miscarried.  It neither helps nor comforts and yet many many women hear this from people who know not one other thing to say.

In the case of your ex... take this as what it is, a snapshot of his treatment of you in a very fragile moment and in some way - try to find the relief in knowing that he is gone from your life.. cause you do not need someone who would treat you so coldly, as you've reported him to be here for that is all anyone here has to go on - what you've typed. 

It is also insensitive to hear from other women, and you will likely hear it if not already, that "you are young and you can try again".  To those who have miscarried, that says that the baby or babies were dispensable or exchangeable and the baby or babies are not.  Yet, the folks are well meaning and care... they just are insensitive and don't know what is being said or received.

I also get what it feels like to look around and see pregnant women, babies, or to even be expected to attend baby showers.  I lost my first baby fairly far along in the pregnancy... the months afterward were cruel and excruiating. 

I became suicidal and ended up a month in a psych ward... to come home and spend another 4 months at home in a daze of heavy drugs.  It wasn't until nearly a year and a half later that the grief started to subside... it is quite painful. 

To this day, nearly 15 years later.. I still grieve and think of my first child.  It is not as devastating, the grief but, it lingers... it will always linger and I'll always remember and I do know that one day... I will be reunited with my little one and will be her momma again.

I am very very sorry Ice Queen.  I am very very sorry.

Hi Ice Queen.

I'm so very sorry you have lost your babies; it's not fair and must be very painful...

I have to say that your ex is an idiot and anybody who doesn't support you and hold you close to their hearts.

Sometimes we are not meant to be born because we only needed few things to evolve spiritually as your babies did, but never the less you have to go through all that pain and loss which will take time to heal.

I'm sure some day you will have more babies and someone at your side to support you all the way. Blaming him or yourself it's a waist of time dear queen, just take care of yourself and let your heart heal without guilt. We care for you and we'll support you all the way whenever you need us.

God bless you sweetie.

Alex