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By ninojenn Thursday, November 06, 2008

My name is Jenn & I'm just trying 2 live with this illness w/o totally losing it & deal with a VERY abusive fiancee two!?

11/ 7/08 4:07am

Hi Jenn,

 

I am sorry to hear that you are going through abuse with your fiancee.  I think you should really consider how important it is for you to marry him.  You didn't mention if it is physical or emotional.  I hope that you think about what the consequences will be to both you and your son if you do marry him.  I do know that leaving an abusive relationship is very hard.  I did it when my kids were very young and I was still in love with their dad.  It took my son at the age of 4 crying hysterically because he saw his dad joking and horseplaying around with me and he thought I was being hurt again.  I knew at that moment that my kids had to come first.  It took me a couple of years to get over him but it did happen.  There are good men out there!  You have enough to deal with!  In my opinion, abusive boyfriends/husbands can often be the stressors to more frequent episodes.  Take care of yourself! 

11/ 8/08 1:06pm

yeah do not marry the guy period, being bp the last thing you need is someone who is bad for you, sometimes certain people are just not ment to be but in your case you need support and understanding. consider yourself lucky cause you still are free and can make a choice. i guess maybe hes worth an ultimatum maybe one if he doesnt comply, then ditch him, move on,  next. too many fish in the sea to be with a prick

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